(Closed) bridesmaid to a bride….

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I give what I would normally give, were I not a bridesmaid.  I don’t think those costs really factor into the gift. I would give what you are comfortable with.  If money is tight maybe something $25 for the shower, and $75 for the wedding?

Post # 4
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I give what I would normally give, with the caveat of based on what I can afford at the time. 

But I will say this, when I’m tight on funds (as I often was when I was Bridesmaid or Best Man in my 20’s) I fully embraced the etiquette rule that I had up to a year to give a gift after the wedding. I’m a well known registry finisher. 🙂

Post # 5
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think for the Bridal Shower 50-75 and the wedding depends if you have a SO or not, so 100-150 if its just you and 200 if its you and your SO

Post # 8
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

significant other 

if the bride is feeding him at her wedding you should drop about $50.00 on a present. 

Post # 10
1183 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Bridal Shower-

– from what I have heard it is typical for average guests (not so close to the bride) to give 50 and anyone closer a little more (75-100). 


– 100 per person is the minimum gift in my area- Anything less than that is considered rude or cheap (Long Island- NY).


however there are always exceptions to the rules. You have to do what you can afford. Like others have said- save up and give it later if possible. Even though you are spending money as a bridesmaid that doesnt mean that you should give less of a gift. Being a bridesmaid is a choice (unless you are close family). Yes it is a finanical burden- but thats part of being a bridesmaid. Hey we all know what it feels like to be tight on money. You have to do what is best. 

Post # 11
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@AndysCraftsNmore:  Whatever you can comfortably afford.  Gifts vary based on the giver and it’s appropriate to give what you can afford.  You are not expected to give a gift that will result in you not being able to pay your bills for the month.  I typically gift between $50 and $100 depending on how well I know the bride and what my financial position is at the time of the wedding.  If you give a shower gift that can also count as your wedding gift, no need to duplicate.

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