Bridesmaid trouble – bachelorette nightmare

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BrideFromTheBeach:  Obvious question.. did you ask the other two what is the matter?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BrideFromTheBeach:  The one that ignored you I would let cool off for a few days and then text and say you need to talk. Friends talk to each other. If your MOH is behind this, I would not blame you for booting her from the wedding party.

It is NOT YOUR FAULT the bf was fired. Frankly she was probably jealouse because now in her mind she cant have a wedding yet. If it turns out she talked nasty bhind your back becayse she blames you for the BF getting fired she is not a friend and needs to be let go.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BrideFromTheBeach:  I am wondering how it’s your fault that the bf was terminated? WHat kind of job is this? Was he not doing the job properly or did the company downsize?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BrideFromTheBeach:  Obviously your MOH and her BF are completely in the wrong about being mad at you because of the termination. They should be thankful your FI was able to secure him the job in the first place. Do they suspect your FI of having something to do with the termination, or is this misplaced anger?

I will say, however, that this might be a bit of a learning situation regarding talking about the girls to eachother. I understand the need to vent when you are pissed off, but moving forward I would stick to venting to a party who will never meet these girls (coworker, family) to prevent a scorned friend from spilling the beans because she’s mad at you.

If it were me, I wouldn’t be waiting for “sit downs” with anyone. It’s just not how I operate. If you have something to say to a question I ask you, I’m not waiting for a big dramatic ‘come-to-jesus’ type meeting to discuss it. Ask them what is wrong, once, and don’t press them further.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t get so worked up until you know what’s going on. Maybe they’re not ignoring you – maybe they’re just busy. I’m awful abotu returning calls from friends. Not that I don’t love them. I just get busy and forget. If something is going on, then talk to this friend after the weekend and once you know what’s going on you can try to deal with it. But you’ll just drive yourself crazy chasing your won tail. So don’t let it stress you. I’m sure it’ll work out fine. If your friend is having a hard time, let her. It may just take some time before she’s in a better place.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BrideFromTheBeach:  I’m not at all saying it’s fair or that you should be crucified…but what *I’m* saying is, if that’s your motto, maybe you should, moving foward, just say it to their face the *first* place :-/

This sounds like a textbook case of women acting like girls and ganging up on one member of the group. If it were me, I truly would write and say “if you want to discuss this, do it now or otherwise drop it” and then change how you handle frustration with them moving forward. It will save you a TON of heartache.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BrideFromTheBeach:  Bottom line is your FH did not intentially set her BF up for failure at his job. So their attitude is self-serving because they want to find someone to blame for his situation. It’s not fair.

Talk to your MOH, talk to your two friends and find out what’s going on. At the end of the day, if they want to be childish, I say drop them all. I don’t deal with chidlren but adults.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry that you have are putting up with this self centred rubbish.

It is so childish of your MOH fouling up your bachelorette to make it all about her. And the other girls taking sides!!

And to air it all out by TWEETING is such immature nonsense.

I agree with LuvMySailor that you should talk with your MOH and these other girls but be prepared to drop them if need be. You need to have your conscience clear that you’ve tried your best.

Dropping them NOW is ten times better than anyone putting a fake “sorry” band aid on it and have tensions on the day ruin your wedding.

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