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Wow... what a crappy thing to do to a friend. Fortunately, that friend WASN'T you... Unfortunately, it (kind-of-but-not-really) puts you in the middle.
If I were your MOH... I would confront the friend (on principle) with pitchforks and the like. She is supposed to be HER friend!! But as for you, it's really not your business... I hate to say it, but involving yourself in someone else's drama, especially between two friends, right before your wedding will just bring out bad vibes and uncomfortable moments. Despite the fact that your BM was wrong, she is still your friend.
Would you be as apt to ask her to step down if she slept with someone that you didn't know's bf?
@vanilla frosting:I now this sounds bad and it is hard for me to admit but the only reason that the BM is in the wedding party is because she asked and I felt cornered :( She actually stole my high school boyfriend from me!
@Rosieposie: Well then I would tell her given the circumstances, you think it is best that she not attend. It would make you and MOH uncomfortable. Some "friendsships" run their course and don't work out.
@Rosieposie: Well then I would tell her given the circumstances, you think it is best that she not attend. It would make you and MOH uncomfortable. Some "friendships" run their course and don't work out.
@Rosieposie: I would ask her to step down, but do it discretely.
Just say that you really want your wedding to be about lasting and strong relationships and the fact that she recently slept with another woman's boyfriend (regardless of who it was) really goes against your vision for your wedding day.
I just feel that she never belonged in the first place and now I dread the idea of having to have her stand beside me on the most special day of my life.
If you didn't want her in the wedding in the first place and she's proven herself to be a lousy friend, definitely ask her to step down. Even if it means having uneven sides at the wedding, it won't be a big deal. I wouldn't want someone like that standing up there with me on my wedding day.
Be there for your best friend, your MOH, and let the BM know that she is no longer welcome to be in the wedding party. I would tell her she is no longer welcome at the wedding, period.
Sometimes etiquitte should be trumped by logic.
Absolutely ask the BM to step down... I can't believe she asked you if she could be in your bridal party!!!! Your poor MOH!
@Rosieposie: Like I said above you have a valid reason to ask her not to be a part of your day anymore.
She has recently acted as a "destroyer of relationships" rather than a "supporter of relationships".
Hopefully she will understand and step down quietly, if not you can always hire security.
@Rosieposie: Sounds like you've made your mind up then. Sorry you have the extra stress and your poor MOH :(
I would either stay out of it, it really isn't your business or ask the BM to step down if you think there will be drama
Given that she is only a BM because she asked and you felt cornered and picked your MOH because she is your BFF, I would ask her no to only step down.. but also not come to my wedding. I am very protective of my friends and if someone wants to hurt my BEST friend I take that as a personal attack as well. It is not about "staying out of other peoples' buisness" it is about your best friend. My best friend is a sister to me, no less than family. I love her and would not want this person around her unless there were torches and pitch forks involved. KICK HER OUT!
@Rosieposie: Oh my...lose her fast! I think what your mom suggested is the best. I think you should be honest...this is your day and she should understand. Besides if they pretend to be cordial they may be influence to say something after a few cocktails at the reception and nobody wants a fight at the wedding. Good luck!
I'm just feeling so worried about all of this...I'll update you all on what I decide to do! Thank-you so much for all of your input! This is a sensitive subject and I can't talk to anyone else about it besides my fiance and he doesn't know what to do either :(
Has anyone else had any trouble like this?? My wedding is only a month away...
Well when you put it that way... I wouldn't have had her be part of the bridal party to begin with! That really sucks that she put YOU in an uncomfortable situation. I was under the assumption that she was your friend too.
Ask her politely to step down and tell her that your morals don't jive with hers and you don't want that kind of karma on your wedding day.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap in the month before your wedding! To me, it sounds like you didn't even like this girl that much in the first place and she's obviously a terrible friend to your MOH. Maybe discuss it with the MOH and ask if she would feel uncomfortable standing with the girl who slept with her bf? If I were your MOH, I would really appreciate it if I didn't have to stand up (especially at a wedding--a celebration of strong relationships and loyalty) next to the other girl.
Whatever you decide to do, I hope you're able to do it with minimal drama and tears.
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Okay here is the thing. My Maid of honor just had one of my other bridesmaids visit her at college. They went dancing and had some dirnks and when my MOH went to bed the BM SLEPT with her boyfriend. We know that what he said is true because there are pics and texts proving it but...my sweet MOH doens't want to say anything before the wedding because she thinks it will break our friends up and make everyone choose sides. I understand why she wants this but I can't even bea the thought of look at the BM. What should I do?? my mom suggested asking the BM to pretend to be sick on the day of the wedding and step aside to prevent drama.