Bridesmaid trouble! Need some advice. :/

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I say quality over quantity.  Unless you can think of two great girls to replace the ones who are no longer in your bridal party, don’t do it.  Being a bridesmaid is an honorary position, and there is no rule saying you have to have a certain quantity of bridal attendants per number of guests.   At the end of the day, it’s who you have by your side, not how many.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m only having a MOH, and after reading all the horror stories on here, I’m glad she’s the only one! Also, it seems kind of demeaning to me to go to someone and say “I really wanted someone else, but since she can’t be there I want you to take her place.”

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My best friend is getting married and I am her maid of honor, together with another bridesmaid. It is only 2 of us and we feel absolutely fine with it! I think replacing bridesmaids is very rude i a way to the new ones you invite – I would feel like second choice and that you would only be inviting me so you could have a crowd. Keep your two girls and have fun!!!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Just two MOHs here! The only thing is I feel uncomfortable with them throwing me a shower because that’s a lot of $$ for two people. I may just ask them not to.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

Smaller is better.  I always thought the nicest weddings were ones with 1-3 bridesmaids only.  I’m thinking of having just a MOH…

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureMrs_B:  There’s nothing wrong with having only 2. I only had 2 (counting MOH), for a wedding of about 100, and it was perfect. The reason was simple: they were the only 2 who absolutely had to be there: my best friend and my sister. I don’t see why you’d need more than 2 just because you have more guests, and the biggest wedding I’ve been to (a Greek wedding of maybe 150-200 guests) only had 2 BMs. Bridesmaids aren’t props, they’re your nearest and dearest friends. Less is more when it comes to bridesmaids.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Does the bridal party have to correlate to the guest count? I agree quality over quantity. Don’t ask someone new it’ll make her feel second best

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@FutureMrs_B:  i’m having 2! 🙂 best decision ever! well…best decision after i replaced one who was “too busy”. trust me, it will save you a lot of stress in the long run.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@FutureMrs_B:  Do you have an MOH in addition or just 2 bridesmaids? Either way I agree with PP quality over quantity! (and there’s the added bonus of less expense if you’re paying for make-up, hair, or anything else for them- it adds up!) My cousin had a 200 guest wedding and 2 bridesmaids and I thought nothing about it. I’m assuming no one else had a problem either as no one said anything about it or thought it was odd the whole night. So I think you’ll be fine. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’ve heard the thing about the guest count correlating to the bridal party but I really don’t think it matters. These are the people who are special enough to you to stand up on your day and that’s all that matters. Just be happy with who have and enjoy the fact that you probably won’t have very much drama from this point on. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree…its not how many people are up there with you..its the people and the importance of them being there.  Like @thatredheadedbride said- quality over quantity.  It doesn’t matter how many guests will be there or what someone else might think.  its about you and who will be there by your side.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@FutureMrs_B:  Do not choose more because it would not be equal. Less does not mean bad….. Better have just two, insted asking other gorls, who might be hurt they were a “backup” for you.

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