(Closed) Bridesmaid Trouble/Wedding Depression

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m a little confused, did you post on another friends wall that you needed help because you are stressed or did your other friend ask for help for you?  Either way, the other BM didn’t really need to make either of her comments.  If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it. 

On the other hand, BM’s aren’t really required to do anything except buy a dress and show up the day of.  I sympathize with you that you have a big wedding and would like help, but unfortunately, bridesmaids aren’t free laborers. 

If you really don’t want to be friends with her after the wedding and you feel she is putting a damper on your happiness, then maybe it is best if she wasn’t a part of your day.  If you care about the friendship, just let it go and see if your other BM’s will help you as much as they can.  Maybe even ask your FI to help you.  If he wanted the big wedding, I’m sure he can take some time to help you get stuff done, then maybe you won’t resent him as much.  I hope it works out. 

Post # 5
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224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry the wedding planning has become so unpleasant. Is it an option to scrap the whole thing and elope instead, and save what little is left of your sanity? A wedding should not overshadow a marriage. 🙁

I would also definitely cut this BM out of your celebration (if you still want to call it that – you can hopefully salvage some good feelings, still). Not only is she adding unneeded stress, but in 10 years, when you have not spoken for those 10 years, you don’t want to look back at wedding pics and be like, “Oh and there’s Suzy Q, she was so nasty the whole time.” You want to surround yourself with people you love and who love you and who want to stand with you!

Good luck. I think it is time to be ruthless in the interest of your own happiness. 🙁

Post # 6
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with Charlotte, if you’re going into this whole wedding with the intention to not be friend with her after the fact, I’d say it’s better to cut the tie now then to risk letting her ruin your experience and day anymore.  She doesn’t sound like someone you need in all those beautiful pictures you’ll be looking back at over the years…

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