Post # 1
This is really just a venting post. In the grand scheme of things this is an easy enough problem to fix.
So in September my bridesmaids who live in the same state with me went to go pick out bridesmaid dresses. We tried on a ton of dresses in different prices but we all fell in love with a dress by Swoon. It’s $234. I sent out an email to all my bridesmaids letting them know that we had picked a dress, told them the price and that I’d be sending them all the information to order them. I pushed back ordering them because one of my bridesmaids had a baby in November and another is deployed in Iraq. I just sent out the order form this week with the latest possible order date while not being panic inducing (dresses come in 4 weeks before our wedding) being a little over a month from now.
One of my bridesmaids just contacted me to say that the dress I picked out is too expensive. I’m just irritated because everyone knew the price 2 months ago and nobody said anything and now it’s too late to pick a new dress and she’s throwing a fit. I’m going to offer to help with some of the cost but I needed to vent a little. Anyone else experience something similar?
Post # 3
@NavyandGrey: Yikes, how stressful. She really should have brought this up sooner, I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this!
Post # 4
She should have brought this up as soon as you chose the dresses, yes. But as brides, and first and foremost friends, it is our responsibility to get individual budgets for our bridesmaids prior to looking at dresses. If we find a dress that is out of budget for some, and really like it, we must offer to pay the difference.
Perhaps she was embarrassed about not being able to afford it – maybe she went back to her bank statements, monthly bills and salaries, and realized that no, she really can’t afford it.
Honestly, I’d balk at a $234 dress as well, especially since that doesn’t include alterations. I know this is a vent, and you said you would help her pay for it, but I definitely suggest you stay sensitive to her financial interests. That’s a lot of money.
Post # 5
As the flaky one, I can say it’s very possible she saw the note but just didn’t read it thoroughly, just did a “mental note, order dress, info in here when I need it.” Then came back to look it up to order it and did a “$234?! HOLY SHIT!” At least, that’s what I’d do.
I’d cut her a break on the timing and financially – that is a lot for a dress. My MOH’s dress was $160 and I thought that was crazy, so I bought it. And her shoes.
Post # 6
I let my bridesmaids choose their own dresses. Then I got a text today saying she wanted to kill me because it’s so expensive with alterations. ugh