- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
(please no nasty/sarcastic comments, honestly just want to vent before I explode!!)
My cousin (will call her J) is my bridesmaid and has been making me feel sad by her comments about my wedding.
Firstly she has been a bridesmaid 8 times and is brilliant at organising weddings. She loves them and the big church, hotel reception etc. but when it came to her wedding she eloped and married just her and her husband. A complete shock to our family as that is never what she wanted but her husband is very controlling and refused to marry her in front of other people. Even when it came to them having a party a few weeks later, he refused to have a first dance with her or cut their cake for unknown reasons because he is VERY in your face!
Any way that is the background of her – it is relevant in some ways.
So fast forward to me planning my big day. When we had found our venue and booked it, she came over with her husband for dinner and we were showing them our contract and a cute booklet that the venue had given us about wedding etiquette. They looked through it together and were whispering to each other – but made sure we could hear – and were saying things like “how pretentious” and “oh my god how rude is that telling you how to do things”. This annoyed me a little bit but I though ok of course they are entitled to their opinions.
Since then every little thing I have booked I kept her updated as she is a bridesmaid but every time I let her know I get a ‘oh that’s a bit grand isn’t it’ or ‘cool’ where as my other 3 bridesmaids are always enthusiastic about things.
I know that is nothing to go on I totally understand that but there have been other incidents where she has said some very strange things to me and obviously knowing what she is like I know that she is being nasty or having a dig. Shes a very strange character and after speaking to other family members, they reckon she is jealous – however my argument is that our wedding is the complete opposite of her wedding (which she claims was her perfect day) so she would have no reason to be jealous of it as it really is the complete opposite.
She seems to be getting worse the more the wedding plans come along. Silly little comments like when I showed her a picture of my FI and I and all she comments on is “ew is he going to have that stubble on the wedding day? Yeah that pissed me off but oh well.
The more she comments on things the more I want to say to her “If you have an issue with the wedding, you are more than welcome to step out of the bridal party” but I don’t want to cause arguments in the family. I would list all the examples of things she has said but this post is long enough!!
I kind of wish I never started this post but as ive written it all out and its so long I am going to post it so I don’t feel like ive wasted my time ha!
Sorry guys, just wanted to vent out as its annoying me!