(Closed) Bridesmaid vs. Groom! (long)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Everyone has their own way of dealing with things, but in my opinion… If anyone was to have a problem with me, or my fiance, they would simply not be invited to our wedding. And there are actually 3 people who are not being invited because various falling outs with either myself or my Fiance.

You are obviously really close to this friend because she’s in your bridal party. Maybe next time she says something snarky, about the wedding or your fiance – just say something like ‘you know you don’t have to be in the bridal party if you don’t want to,’ or ‘look, it’s really upsetting me the way you are talking about Fiance, please stop.’

Ask Fiance to stop bagging her out to you as well, tell him you know what she’s like but their relationship is really stressing you out and it’s the last thing you need to be worrying about.

As I said, everyone will have their own way of dealing with this unfortunate circumstance but I hope I’ve helped a bit Undecided

Post # 4
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hard decision… :-/

Post # 5
696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No but honestly if she hates your Fiance and he hates her then I dont think she should be in the wedding. It is about the two of you and the bridal party needs to support you both and support the marriage which she does not. I dont think it is fair to your Fiance to have someone standing up at his wedding that hates him.

Post # 6
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you’ve gotta have his back the same that he’d be expected to have yours if a groomsmen didn’t like you.  I’d have a heart to heart with the friend and explain how important her role is in standing up for the both of you in marriage, if ahe can’t then she can be a guest or not but make it painless and you can still be friends, though honestly if it went that far with someone that they couldn’t grow up for the sake of a wedding or other big life event I might think I’ve outgrown that friendship.

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