(Closed) Bridesmaid with tattoos

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Stick to your original bridal party. However, I doubt anyone will care as much about the tats as you seem to.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree it is your decision. For me I spent time asuring myself I made the right decision and forced myself to not feel bad about it. So when it came to meeting the problem head on ( having to say a firm no) it made it easy even when met with objections. My advice is to say “you’re my best friend and I didn’t want to put that stress on you”. I kind of feel you in that my BM is tatted up which really doesnt bother me because it’s just HER and I love her but she got her faced pierced today and through 99% of me doesn’t care there is that 1% of me praying she doesnt get more peircings lol!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t let her tattoos be your reason for not having her be in your bridal party… I, the bride, will be the only one tatted up in mine, and my family hates tattoos, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

However, your other reasons are valid. You just want your sisters. She is probably feeling a little awkward for saying she will be a BM as you were saying only your sisters will. Try just leaving it and maybe she will understand and not bring it up? If it does come up, just say how you feel about having your family up with you, and maybe give her some other duties she can help with in the wedding to make sure she still feels included. That really goes a long way in making people feel good and a part of your special day. Good luck!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

Maybe you could have her do a reading during the ceremony, or ask her to do a toast for the reception.  I think as long as she knows how special she is to you, she will understand.  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i think tattoos are beautiful.

i couldn’t imagine something as silly as  tattoos preventing me from having someone i love be  part of my special day. if she is special to you and you want her standing beside you on your wedding day, she should be in your wedding regardless of how her body is decorated. if you don’t feel too close to her or are perfectly happy with just your family in your wedding, then that’s okay too.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Me (the bride and two of my bridesmaids have tattoo’s) Its the person not the wrapper as I heard it put once. but ultimately its your choice. just dont tell her its due to the tattoos tell her the family thing you might upset her

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have a few tattoos that you can’t see in everyday clothes, and you couldn’t see during my ceremony, but you could see one during my reception. Since I belong to an uber formal demonination, I expected many people to be put off and say something about them. But no one said a thing! My sister/MOH has a giant tiger lily across the top of her entire back which was definitely going to show during the ceremony in the church, but she’s my best friend and it didn’t bother me at all so I suppose I didn’t care if it bothered anyone else. If you wnt her in your party, then let her be and don’t let what others think cause you to hurt your friend. But if you don’t then keep your original party and let her down as easily as possible…. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You didn’t ask her, so you’re off the hook as far as being rude.  If you do end up having to have a chat with her (and it sounds like you will) about why she’s not in the wedding, please don’t mention her tattoos. Just tell her you decided to stick to family only, and it was a hard choice, but you look forward to partying with her at the reception.

That said, the church shouldn’t give you any headaches about tattoos as long as the dresses fit within any other dress codes (ie, covered shoulders).  And as far as your family- tell them to stuff it.  It’s not their body, they didn’t pay for the tattoos, and they don’t have to wear them. They get to have an opinion, but they also get to keep it to themselves.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just as a data point I’ve been in two Catholic weddings while rocking my tattoos, and heard no complaints from anyone in the church. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If she is your best friend, why can’t you be honest with her and tell her your concerns about her tattoos?  Being your friend she should understand about your family and about the church.  Together the two of you can find a solution/compromise.  Maybe she is willing to cover them.  Maybe you can select a BM dress that will cover them.  Maybe you can find out if there would actually be a problem with the church.  Maybe you can talk to your family and tell them how your friendship is more important that tatoos.  

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

heard no complaints from anyone in the church

maybe because people have manners and keep their opinions to themselves.    i am that guest that would be thinking ugghhh why when i see tatts on people but i keep my mouth shut

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

2 of my BMs have small tattoos and some piercings. The facial piercings will be coming out unless they are so small that you can’t see them and the tattooswill be covered with make up. That is one thing i do not want to look back on my pictures and see. 

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