(Closed) Bridesmaid wont buy her dress! HELP!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If she really has a $45 limit and was honest with you about that up front, I think you should either let her pick a different dress in her price range or pay the difference so she can afford it.

Post # 4
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

$45 seems very low for a dress. I know hers were that low, but she shouldn’t honestly think everybody else’s should be. I’m trying to wrack my brain thinking of a solution, but I can’t. What does the dress look like? Maybe you can find something similar somewhere else? Can you post a photo or link?

Maybe you could get your Fiance to talk to her since he’s her brother. If he mentioned how much you paid in her wedding would it make things worse, or would it maybe help her come to her senses?


Post # 6
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Have you considered having the dress custom made? I know it sounds expensive but it’s actually not! Here in California there are a lot of Asian places that custom make dresses for really cheap. For example, my friend recently got married and had her bridesmaid dresses made. She picked out the one she liked (around $500), went to an Asian place, showed her the pictures, picked out the fabric, etc and had the dress made for about $150. Since the dress was made to your measurements you save on alterations too. 

I know $150 is still over your budget but considering thats $150 in California (which is known for overcharging for wedding stuff) and it was a $500 dress so I might be cheaper in Oregon? 

I hope this helps! 

Post # 7
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I was going to suggest the same thing about having it made 🙂

Post # 8
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Colieee34:  That was the same dress I saw that I liked and wanted my BMs to wear but I didnt think they all would go for that price either. 

Post # 9
1346 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If your not against ordering online friends of mine ordered their dresses from lightinthebox for a ball we went to and they were amazingly well made! (they did suggest getting the custom mesurements tho)

This one would be nice and if you pay the $20 you were going to pay it will come down to around $78.

These ones are nice too

Post # 10
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You don’t say exactly why she can’t afford that: are she and her husband working? Do they have kids/an expensive mortgage/car payments, etc., that make it impossible to spend more than this, or is she just being ridiculous? 

The way I see it, you have a few options:

1. Pay for the extra amount for her dress.

2. Don’t have her in the wedding.

3. Find a cheaper dress for her.

Post # 11
8359 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You need to decide what is more important to you- having her in the wedding (and as a friend) or a dress.

Personally if my best friend couldn’t afford the dress I wanted then I would just pay for it because it would be more important for me to have her there than who paid for the dress. And if I couldn’t afford it I would just find a dress that worked within the budget.

Weddings are a one day party- relationships hopefully last a life time.

Post # 12
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

David’s offers a credit card and 6 month interest free. They also offer layaway for 60 days with 25% down. Maybe that’s an option. 

Post # 13
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with ms Fahrenheit …but where I’m getting married BMs are not expected to buy their dresses themselves so maybe I’m biased 


Post # 14
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

How about a J. Crew bridesmaid dress for $48? An Ann Taylor bridesmaid dress for $41?

Just because the budget is tight doesn’t mean she can’t have a well made dress. Forget Davids Bridal. You have find a far better gown if you look online.

Read this thread but ignore the cheap dresses in the first post…scroll down): http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/cheap-options-for-bridesmaids-dresses

Post # 15
19 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

In my opinion, if you choose a specific dress, especially for such a high price, you can’t expect your BMs to be on board with it. And she did tell you her budget from the start, and yet you fidn something for over 3 times her budget. Throwing in her face how much you spent on her wedding is unfair too, and I really do agree with her – if you couldn’t afford it, then why didn’t you say so to her then?

For a solution, I’d say what has already been said. Either you pay the difference from her given budget, find another dress for her, or you don’t have her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man…

Post # 16
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i have to agree with PPs, she told you her budget ahead of time, doesn’t matter how much you spent on her wedding, she can’t afford that dress. if you want her to get that dress, you should pay the difference, simple as that

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