Post # 1
ever since i asked my bridesmaid to be in my wedding our relationship has changed, we dont talk anymore (not that i haven’t tried) and i havent seen her in months, we are deffinetly on differnt pages in life, she’s young and likes to party and go out every night, and still hasnt really grown up at all (its all about her or no one) where as i have had to grow up quick. I know they only need to be there for the day, im not asking her to, im only asking her to actually be a friend, the wedding is a while away (am having to plan now due to the fact we are opening a business also :/ ) im just unsure on what to do.
Post # 3
If you feel that you dont have much of a friendship I would first try and talk to her. Maybe you can see if both of you have issues with each other. She may feel you are distant or whatever. Sometimes people change when they get in relationships and/or engaged. I know my good friend got married last year and now she barely answers the phone. She won’t go anywhere without her husband unless it is an occasional dinner or lunch And she complains about spending money on anything. Aside from that we barely have a friendship anymore Bc she doesnt answer texts and takes forever to return a phone call.
If talking to her doesnt work…you have over a year…drop her as a bridesmaid. It will be no love lost anyway if you feel she isnt a real friend.
Post # 4
People always post about being in different places in their lives than their friends. And I get that, it’s much harder to maintain a friendship when you guys are doing different things (like you being home with FI and she closing down the bars).
You can make it work. One of my best friends is single and any given night I reach out to her, she’s at the bar. I love her, but that’s just not my scene anymore. Doesn’t mean I don’t go out with her- I’ll still go to the bar with her, but she also goes out of her way to come to dinner with me. We live about 45 mins away, so it’s not really too close.
If you guys are truly friends, you’ll both make accommodations for each other. OP, please don’t think I’m blaming you for the distance. If you’ve consistently tried and have met her halfway, then maybe it’s time to move on. As the PP said, sometimes people change.