(Closed) Bridesmaid/family issue..

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, I would wait and see if things get better before you make any rash decisions. It sounds like they just started having these issues; maybe they will work it out. You still have plenty of time before you have to order bridesmaid dresses.

I wouldn’t ask someone just as filler, either. My FI has 4 groomsmen, and I only had 3 bridesmaids, until my best guy friend agreed to be a “bridesman”. He is going to stand on my side. Was your brother going to stand on your side, or the grooms?

If you are worried about it being uneven, maybe a couple of the groomsmen can be ushers instead? Has your FI already asked them all to be in the wedding?

Post # 4
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

I  agree with k8sk8.

Post # 5
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would worry about having even numbers on both sides. If you only have 3 then you only have 3. You only want bridesmaids that will be supportive and care about you. I would wait until a little bit closer to time to make a decision, but if things don’t get better, cut it down to 3!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would definitely wait it out a bit.  I mean, obviously we don’t know the whole story, but I have to assume that your SIL is generally a nice person or else you wouldn’t have asked her to be a bridesmaid, right?  Hopefully they can work out their marriage issues and you won’t even have to deal with it.  Asking her to step down from your wedding now may just cause them more problems, you know?  It’s just another thing to fight about.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I meant to say I wouldn’t worry*

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t cut someone out on an impulsive decision that you may regret later.    Also, Don’t cut someone out and then ask someone else to stand in.   The later will know they were on the “B” list and it’s not always a great feeling to remember you were the 2nd choice.    Have your party un even.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I also think you should hold off on firing this BM. See first if they can work out their marital issues. No one ever truly knows what happens in a marriage except the two people in the marriage. If you take her out of the wedding, and they work things out, she might resent you for a long time after that. So hang on for a bit and then see how things go. If they end up ending the marriage, then by all means remove her from the wedding party.

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