(Closed) bridesmaids

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2954 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I don’t think she wants to be a bridesmaid.

I’d ask her straight out because arriving a few hours before the wedding is a little crazy and stressful- what it the flight is delayed.

I definitely don’t think you are being a bridezilla at all.

Post # 4
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I do not think you’re being a bridezilla. Are y’all not close or something? I don’t understand why a sister would take your wedding so lightly!

Post # 5
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would be reasonable with her and just calmly tell her that you understand that she doesn’t have a lot of vacation time but you need her there earlier than that for several reasons.  Like Holly77 said her flight could be delayed.  Since she’ll be doing her own hair and make up while everyone else is getting their’s professionally done she might look completely of place.  The traffic might be bad on her way to meet up with you guys so she might miss some of the pictures if you do some before the ceremony.  You will probably be extremely stress if she gets there that late.  If she can’t be there as early as you need her maybe she shouldn’t be a bridesmaid.

Post # 6
9 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Maybe she don’t want to be bridemaid actually for the work. So you can ask some other one to instead of her. Just be straight.

Post # 7
17 posts

i think she is being very selfish, and unco-operative, and i would drop her like that! sister or no sister, there is no rule book saying that you have to have your sister as your bridesmaid.

i think it is one little thing that you have asked her to do, and if i was asked to be a bridesmaid i would feel so privilaged and do everything to help my bride friend out even if i had to travel 1 am in the morning nothing is too early.

i dont think your being a bridezilla, but then again i do not know how you have approached her or spoken to her in what tone, but i think it is a simple enough request, if she can call you a name over asking that then she is not worth the hassle.

you as a bride would be stressing out and her as the bridesmaid is to calm you down and help you out, its not about her this is your day and eevryone should be helping YOU out, you dont need that UNnessary stress tbh, so just drop her out and get someone else! i would be soooo ANNOYED!


Sorry i hope you resolve this issue! good luck!

Post # 8
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Agree with the above posters. She doesn’t sound very interested. Just attending weddings, I usually fly in the day before!

Post # 9
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lilnat22:  The wedding is your day her arriving that close to the time of the ceremony is only putting extra stress on you which isnt fair to you at all. She needs to understand that you asked her to stand beside you on your wedding day because it was important for her to be a part of your special day so you would think she could be a bit more accomodating. Youre not being a bridezilla at all!!!!!!

The topic ‘bridesmaids’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors