Post # 1
Hi there everyone,
I’m pretty new to all of this, and I’m not even *technically* engaged yet, but I’ve got a question.
My parents have said that they’ll pay for my wedding, but I’m afraid that that comes with a stipulation. I don’t really get along with my sister–to the point that I get hives whenever she is around. I haven’t brought this up to my parents, and i really can’t afford a “real” wedding without their financial assistance, but I REALLY do not want my sister around me when I get married.
Has anyone had a similar experience? I’m to the point that I am willing to have no bridesmaids at all in order to not have her near me.
Post # 3
We actually chose to not have any family in our bridal party – they all have different tasks throughout the day. We used the reasoning of we wanted our family members to be able to spend time with our family, and actually be a part of the wedding – they’re readers, guest book attendants, etc.
While some people think it’s rude, our families thought it was the perfect plan – and it’s much less of a hassle!
Post # 4
I had a similar situation–my older sister and I clash BIG TIME, and only talk a few times a year (at most). My younger sister and I chat daily, and she was my obvious Maid/Matron of Honor. I was so worried that my parents would make me have my older sister as a bridesmaid, but they said that they understood it would cause too much stress for me to have her around all day. I only have 3 bridesmaids in total though (my younger sis, FH’s sister, and my bff); I think it would hurt her feelings and upset my parents if I had like 8 bridesmaids and didn’t include her. She is invited to the wedding though.
Post # 5
@afbacher: That was sort of my thought. My bf has no brothers or sisters, and I have a sister, who is near 9 years older than I am and has a husband of whom I do not approve at all, and I also have a brother, also married. He also doesn’t have many close male friends, so we had the thought of each choosing 1 non-family witness to stand with us–no suits or bridesmaid dresses required.
I thought maybe if I let my siblings and their spouses be part of the processional at the ceremony and be introduced at the reception they might get over it.
Post # 6
@Leprechaun: That’s awesome of your parents. My problem is that my sister is very good at lying/expanding the truth and convinces my parents that I’m just a selfish brat and don’t WANT to get along with her. I promise I really do try–she’s just kind of out of her mind crazy. Ever since she started dating her now-husband she has been completely nutty and delusional. I have LOTS of time to handle it, but I was just wondering what other folks thought. Thanks for the advice so far!