Bridesmaids all want different dresses

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hopefull2014:  Lots of places sell a coordinated line of dresses in the same colours and fabrics so that women can choose an individual style but still be “matched”.  I would suggest one length (knee or full) and then let them choose from there.  

As for lines, After Six/Dessy comes to mind.

Also….you could go for one dress that’s convertible, like the Two Birds dresses (although there’s LOTS of cheaper versions out there of the same style).

Post # 4
1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Search etsy for “infinity dress.”

Post # 5
2291 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

The infinity dress is a good option. Or you can do mis-matched in the same fabric/color/length. If you want the dresses to all match then I’d do a ranking system. Find 5 or 6 dresses you love and let the girls rank them from highest to lowest. Throw out any dresses that a girl hated. Pick the dress with the highest votes. I did a point system.  If you do 5 dresses then the point breakdown would be: 4 points, 3 points, 2 points, 1 point, 0. If a dress got a 0 then it was thrown out. I picked the highest dress that no one put down 0.

Post # 6
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@hopefull2014:  Pick a color, material and length of a brand of dress, like After Six, Dressy, David’s and let them pick different styles. Or pick a number of styles and tell them to pick from those.

Post # 7
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@hopefull2014:  Try WToo (by Watters)… You can select a fabric type and color and then play with the cut of the dress.  

Ultimately, it’s YOUR day and YOUR vision.  Now, I’m not a fussy bride (I had to skype in when my bridesmaids when shopping for their dresses because I had just moved from MA to FL and couldn’t be there in person….) and I basically let them pick whatever they wanted, but not everyone is like that.  If it doesn’t fit your vision, have a respectful discussion with your bridesmaids and tell them that you want to a achieve a certain look.  They should be supportive and understanding if you are easy-breezy and explain how you’re feeling in the right way.

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I told my girls “Pool” and floor-length, and they picked whatever at DB!

Post # 9
2322 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@hopefull2014:  I haven’t used this site but the dresses look cute and they have multiple necklines for the same fabric and color.  I kind of want to buy some of their dresses for myself…

Post # 10
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Would you consider just telling them a color and length and letting them get their own? That’s what I did and it worked out great! Or I like the other bee’s suggestion of picking a color and fabric in a certain store/designer and then they could get different cuts in the same length.

Post # 11
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m having my BM dresses made at Fabulous U.  All out of the same fabric and color, all different styles.

Post # 12
420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@hopefull2014:  First off, yay for being my date twin!  My wedding party is very spread out so I’m letting each female attendant pick their own style so long as it is a long gray dress in a non-shiny fabric (like chiffon).  I’m going to recommend David’s Bridal, but they can get the dresses anywhere.

What I do plan on doing to address the modesty issue and keep everyone matching is provide a red pashmina to wear over their shoulders for the ceremony.

Post # 13
6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I second the infinity dress option.  And, they’ll be able to wear them again, for real. 🙂

Post # 14
1653 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


alfred sung has many many of the same color and fabric dresses with about 20 various styles!

Post # 15
2270 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hopefull2014:  I let my girls all pick their own dresses in plain black – any style they wanted as long as it didn’t have the same neckline as my dress. It looked really good and none of the dress were even close to being the same .

Post # 16
5248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hopefull2014: I chose the Henkaa dress for my girls which is similar to the infinity dress others have posted. It is one dress that can be worn in many different styles. Each one of my girls wore a different style in the way they liked it and only my MOH wore a strapless style so she stood out from the others. Below is a picture showing some of the different styles of how they were tied   


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