Post # 1
I was just reading the Knot the other day about the duties of the bridesmaids and maid of honor.
I was just wondering if I was the only bride out there who only expects their bridesmaids to show up to the bridesmaids tea, the rehearsal and of course, the wedding.
My bridesmaids are scattered throughout the globe and I just didn’t think that it would be reasaonable for me to put any sort of demands on them.
Post # 3
That’s all my bridesmaid was available for (because I went through 2 of them before being stuck with my SIL). I think that you don’t HAVE to make your maids do things for you. Personally, I think it should only be if they want to help you.
Post # 4
I’ve got girls all over the place so really all I want is for them to get the dress, throw a bachelorette party (which I will pay my own way for), and show up for the mani/pedis, RD, and wedding.
In an ideal world someone would throw me a bridal shower but they are all fairly broke and I’d rather have the bachelorette party. Someone in my family or FMIL will take pity on me and throw me one. Or they won’t. Whatever.
Post # 5
I wrote this exact post a couple of weeks ago! A lot of the girls who replied felt the same way – bridesmaids shouldn’t have “duties”, they should just get a dress and show up and enjoy!
Post # 6
I agree w/ GirlWithARing – I don’t think bridesmaids should feel obligated to duties. My girls definitely helped out where needed. All came to my shower b/c they were in the area and my mom made sure to schedule around them so that they could all attend, but the only thing I expected from them was to buy a dress and show up the day of the wedding. Even for my bachelorette party, not all the bridesmaids could make it…no big deal! Those who could make it did, and those who couldn’t, didn’t.
Post # 7
I am in the same boat I have bridesmaid that is close by and I see regularly but all the others are 1. 45minutes away and has a family, 2. MOH 5 hour drive 3. Then there is one that is many states away and the final 5. is in another country all together. I don’t expect them to do any of the things that the knot says. The one that is close by has never been in a wedding before and she is finding it to be a lot of fun and is willing to help me out when I need it which has been wonderful I am so glad I picked her to be a bridesmaid. Just do what you want with the girls.