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Bridesmaids and fluctuating Weight

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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    I'm not getting married for almost another year and a half, but I found the perfect dresses.  They aren't actual bridesmaid dresses though, they are Victoria's Secret. I'm worried that if my bridesmaids wait too long to purchase them, VS won't have their size anymore. Does anyone else have experience with purchasing non "bridesmaid" dresses?

     Also one of my bridesmaids is worried that if she purchases it now, it won't fit her when our wedding rolls around. Her weight fluctuates a lot (both in frequency and in the amount.)  I don't know what to tell her.  Any ideas, hive?

     
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    amysue    6/6/09  

    I would strongly suggest waiting. A lot can happen in 18 months, not the least of which is you just plain changing your mind about what you want your wedding to be like.

     
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    penguin    June 7, 2008   Berkeley, Ca

    She can purchase a fairly larger size and have it taken in if she's worried about gaining weight! Also, it's the holidays so typically people are their heaviest right about now... so she might be ok!  But a good seamstress should be able to take care of it!

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    Thanks for your suggestion, Pengy!

     
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    amysue    6/6/09  

    Sorry if I came off as dismissive -- I've had a 22 month engagement, so I guess I speak from experience. There were some dresses I liked earlier on, but I got a little resistance from my bridesmaids when it came to purchasing things so far out. And now one of them is pregnant, so I guess that explains that. : )

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    Haha--not at all amysue.  I know what you mean but I have many limitations on what I can choose as far as bridesmaid dresses and this dress fits all the requirements. Plus I love it.  And so do my bridesmaids.  They all wanted something they could truly wear again.  The only resistance that i have received from them is that 2 of them aren't as financially well off so they might not be able to purchase it right away. 

     
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    hbowar    May 15th, 2009   San Jose, CA & MN

    I would wait if I were you!  You still have plenty of time, which also means you can change your mind a few times.  If you are set on your colors and such, then go ahead.  But I agree with Pengy and have your BM order a couple sizes bigger if she's worried about it!

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    I've been set on my color scheme for about a year already (before I was technically engaged) so I don't think I'll be changing it.  But thanks for the pointers.  I guess I'm just really worried about alterations. I've never had to have any done, but I'm sure they are capable. 

     
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    as a former bridesmaid in this position, I would be hesitant to buy dresses over a year out. I too would love to have my bridesmaids buy a dress now (Sept. 10 wedding) because I've seen some really nice nonbridal dresses at good price points. However, I had to buy a dress a year out for a wedding I was in and of 5 BM, 3 of us had fit problems by the wedding. One of the BMs quit smoking and gained weight, luckily she found a seamstress who was able to use the length to take it out 4 sizes (this is not easy) but and while my dress didn't fit the same as when I ordered it it was wearable but another BM could not zipper her dress and breathe and didn't realize it in time to do anything about it so she wore it in pain in church and changed at the reception. These are just things you won't want to deal with at your wedding, especially if one of your BMs is worried about fluctuating weight. That being said, I think you could watch the dress at VS and when it goes on sale know it'S time to buy before it is sold out. Also, non bridesmaid dresses usualls are returnable so check how long you have in case you find a better dress or some one needs to exchange a size (I think 90 days). An exchange is a lot quicker and cheaper than alterations.

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I know you love the dress now, but in a year you may not so I would just wait.  Even in the couple months before my wedding I wanted to change my mind a million times.  When you do for sure decide on a dress, make sure everyone gets it so you don't end up like Mrs. Lemonade!  Also, when you do buy the dress if she is worried about her weight, she can always buy the dress larger and have it taken in...much easier than letting out if there isn't enough material!

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