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If it's stressing you way out, you don't have to have one. Maybe mention it to your MOH that you're kind of dissapointed that you probably aren't getting one and try to nudge her along toward planning it or if you don't care about tradition, maybe explain the situation to your mom (if you haven't already) and see if somebody in your family would be interested in hosting it.
Bridesmaids don't always plan to shower. If you're bummed about not getting one, then you can always tell your mom or FMIL if they want to plan it they can. If you don't care too much then you can decide not to have one. It's up to you, but your bridesmaids def. don't have to be the ones to plan it.
Thanks for your advice Ladies! I will definatly mention it to my family and see what they say. If they really want me to have a shower then maybe someone in my family can host it, or help me plan.
My mom is hosting it and she's enlisted the help of my MOH. The other bridesmaids know (I know this much) but don't know how much of the planning they're doing. :)
My mom's friends are putting mine on.. lol. 2 of my BMs will be there, my MOH is from out of town, so she won't be, but they're not involved in any of the planning or anything else.
So the BMs/MOH doesn't have to be the ones to put it on.
Mine turned into kind of a big joined effort lol My MOH was for sure planning it but when she asked for the help of my BMs most of them were freaking about spending money on it. So in the end they're contributing what they want to I guess and then my mom pitched in a lot for it. It is a 50 person shower though, so I expected my mom to have to help out.
I actually had three showers:
1st one was a family shower that my aunt put together for me
2nd one was a work shower that my co-workers gave me
3rd one was a friends shower that my MOH's put together for me.
It doesn't always have to be your BM's family can definately give you one!!
You're maid of honor traditionally plans your baby shower along with your bridesmaids. But anybody can host it really. As for me my mother and maid of honor will plan it together. I will have some input and I don't want it to be a surprise so I will pick the date and all. I love bridal showers they are so much fun! Congrats! Oh and we're month twins! If you have a shower what date will you have it on? I was thinking for me April or May.
Bridal party usually throws the shower, since tradition says the family should not. (It looks gift grabby.) However, plenty of moms plan showers, either outright, or behind the scenes. These days it is often more practical for family to plan it, because Bms and friends are all over the country, or still working on their master's and busy and poor.
I would agree about going the mom route. If your Bms weren't aware it's kind of their responsibility to throw the shower, telling them now, after they've accepted the role, might not go over well. They might not have been budgeting for something like that. But perhaps your mom could get them offer up some elbow grease.
Tradition was the MOH and BMs, but anymore anyone can host it. As more couples tend to pay for their own weddings, a lot of moms will do the shower now. My BMs are all broke so they couldn't afford to host one, and even though we're paying for the wedding, my mom is too "traditional" to host, so I wasn't going to have one...until FI's aunt graciously afford to throw a shower=) I've only met her once, but I'm SO excitied and touched by the gesture!!
Thanks for your advice everyone! I talked to my aunt today, and hopefully we can start planning it, and if the bridesmaids or Maid of Honour wants to help they definatly can! (Not holding my breath though!) I guess I am just the type of girl who doesnt like asking for help, or trying to be too rude and just asking them. I did explain the details of being a bridesmaid and asked them if they were ok with everything, because it can be a lot! Anyways, hopefully it will all work out! Thanks again!
SoontobeMrs.Gibbs-Congrats! I was thinking of having my shower May 1-it is so hard with all this wedding planning to try and find a date that works! Have you decided on any dates?
I haven't exactly chosen a date, like you said it's hard, but I will set a date as soon as I can. Maybe in April because May is really busy with my little sisters birthday on the 3rd and my MOH bday on the 15th. So I will most likely do it in April I gotta let my mother and MOH know. We'll see.
traditionally, its hosted by the MOH and the BM's, but i've heard of family members hosting the showers as well.
Hey! Thanks for all your advice! The date is set, and my Aunts and myself have taken over the planning, and we have decided that if the Bridesmaids or Maid of Honour wants to help they can!
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I am looking for an opinion on this:
Who usually plans a shower for the bride? I know not everyone has showers, but family has been asking me, and truth be told I have no idea who would plan one for me. They told me that my bridesmaids should be planning one, but when I asked the girls about it, they seemed to be uninterested and not wanting to be involved. Since my family has been asking I thought that I should have one, but I dont want this to be another thing that I have to do. I am begining to become stressed over this, since my bridesmaids havent done much to help this far (and my wedding is in 3 and 1/2 months!)
Any advice?