Post # 1
Would it be ridiculous to have 12 bridesmaids ? We are having a wedding of about 250-300 people, I am originally from Argentina and my fiance is from here. I have my cousin and 3 friends flying from Argentina and another 9 from here who I have down for BM’s… problem is, if I cut any of my friends here I know their feelings are going to be really hurt. I don’t know what to do, if this is a ridiculous amount of BM’s then I’ll just have my cousin and my fiance’s best man stand next to us and everyone else will still be in the wedding party, just not up next to us during the ceremony… help ? or any ideas ?
Post # 3
i’m having 10 bridesmaids and our wedding is gonna be 250-300 guests also. we are also having just the MOH and best man at the altar with us. everyone else will sit in a pew that is reserved for them. i have already explained that and everyone is on board with it. if each BM is meaningful to you, i say go for it! 🙂
Post # 4
@cloepokrzyva: How many groomsmen is your fiance having?
Post # 5
It is a big number! But it is your wedding… do what you want 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Do you want to buy gifts for 12 bridesmaids (and accompanying groomsmen, if appropriate)? Do you want to pay for 12 maids and their guests at the rehearsal dinner? Do you want to pay for their hair, make-up, jewelry, etc.? And do you want to deal with the opinions/budgets/timelines of 12 other people? What level of conformity do you expect to achieve? Do you think that is possible with that many maids? Only you know what is right for you.
I can only tell you that the idea of dealing with the schedules, budgets, and opinions of 12 grown women each leading their own lives and doing their own thing would send me to the nut house. Too much drama. My goal was to keep things as simple and stress-free as possible.
Post # 7
@omglauren: OK this is great to know I’m not the only one ! Thanks!
Post # 8
That is rather large, but it is up for you. If you go into this with open eyes, having all of those close people with you can be great. It can also be more cost and more drama, as more people equal both.
Not to discourage you, but below are some things to think about;
1. What are 12 people going to wear, where are they going to order it from, and how are they going to each try it on? Are you taking them all dress shoping? Who is paying for it?
2. You will need to get them each a gift and budget for this.
3. Are you expecting them to have proffesional hair and makeup? When will they have it done? Who will do their hair and make up? Are you paying for it (if you select the person to do it, you are expected to pay)? Is there enough time to get 12 people through a stylist in your area?
4. What are you doing for other positions in the wedding, such as readers?
5. How are you transporting these people? Are they expected to drive themselves, or are you going to try to aranage a bus for your wedding party?
Post # 9
@lovekiss: Thanks, this is all very true, my idea was to have them buy whatever dress they want in different shades as long as it is a long dress. I think I may just do everything with my cousin and the best man and then the rest can still be part of the wedding party but on different terms since we are flying people from out of the country and already spending about 50 k on the wedding. Thanks !
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@cloepokrzyva: You still have tons of time to think on it. The maids really don’t need to be asked until 9ish months before the wedding. So keep rolling it over in your brain, talk with your FI, and take time to see how these ladies actually respond to your wedding/wedding planning. You may be surprised that some are very uninterested, and probably would not make for a “good” (read non-stressful/drama laden) wedding party member in the first place. They may eliminate themselves from the running and make the decision easier for you. You just never know.
Post # 11
I agree with Misswhowedding….
I would also consider this…… it is very difficult to get great phootgraphs of huge wedding parties. Someone always has his/her eyes closed, awkward smile, etc.
You also have to consider the personalities of your girls…. will they be supportive? can they afford to be bridemaids? Do you think any will turn into bridemaidzilla? will you be able to find a dress that all will like?
Please wait to ask these girls…… a lot can happen between now and your wedding…. wait until 9 months before the wedding to ask…..
Post # 12
If that is your vision and you have the budget. That will be a ton of money for flowers and gifts
Post # 13
While 12 is a lot of girls, it sounds proportionally fine to the number of guests you’re having. I say go for it!