Post # 1
I need a little help. This may be a long post. Here goes.. Me and future hubby were engaged in November last year and immeidalty decided to have a destination wedding in Jamaica for July 2015. I was on the fence to have a bridal party only because I only have a handful of girls that not sure if they could commit for something so far out and really didn’t have ” fill- ins” ( I know that sounds bad) but I didnt want my future hubby to suffer since he has his brothers and all his guy best frineds, so we came to an agreement to just have 5 a piece. I asked my friend then if they wanted to and everyone said yes. So my girls are CALI, BFF, NC1, NC2, TX
At this time invitations have gone out and so far I am down to 1 bridesmaid….
CALI just can afford anything at this point , baby daddy drama ect.
BFF is getting divorced and has relocated
NC1 is going to have a baby January 2015 YAAAY ( this has been a long time coming and soooo very excited) she says that she will still make it but really don’t think she is gong to leave her 6 month old, this is her frist too.
TX is my cousin and the only person that lives near me I love her to death but she is not the most reliable person, she has flaked on all wedding dress outings and now has gotten into debt over some guy she met so she can’t afford to come either.
I love all these girls dearly and they have all been through so though times with me.
I have made some really good friends with my future hubbys friends wives and they love me dearly and they have offered to throw the bridal showers and bachlorette parties knowing what has happened and are coming to the wedding in Jamaica. He suggested I ask them to be in the bridal party.
What do you guys think?
Post # 2
MrsBlake2015: If you’re friends with them, I say go for it! 2 of my ladies were originally my FIs friends that I have become close to. My friends sound like yours. I moved around a lot in my late teens/early 20s so I only have a couple good friends, and they can be flakey. My FIs friend group has been together since highschool… they all stayed in the area and stayed good friends, and now they’re adopting me into their tight knit group (which is AWESOME).
When he suggested I ask them in the wedding I was hesitant, but I’m happy I did. I know they’re be there for us, they’ve already helped a lot and their great people.
So… to circle back, yes! Absolutely ask them (again, providing you want to) and don’t feel weird about it… they’re your friends too!
Post # 3
You seem like such a nice person! Most folks would be freakin’ out and blaming their friends for dropping out. I have to say that I personally think that once you agree to be a bdsmaid, nothing besides being medically unfit to travel should stop you (your pregnant friend for example has a valid reason for not being there).
Anyhow, it sounds like your hubby’s friends’ wives would be very good.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
Friends will make it more special
Post # 5
winterwoodlandbride15: Thanks!! Yes they really do sound alike! They have all been friends through high school, college and working as well and they have let me fit right on in. They are all wonderful women and have done soo much already. Guess I was just stuck on my “old” friends LOL. Now I have find out how I want to ask them Thanks for the input
Bainise2013: Thanks, I always been that way LOL maybe a little too nice at times
angyjaxon: Yes they will
Post # 6
Yes, ask them to be a part of your bridal party. But also don’t feel obligated to have a bridal party at all (unless you really want it).