(Closed) Bridesmaids Battle . . .

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How do you feel about my choices?
    You should pick who you want to pick. : (15 votes)
    83 %
    You should have picked your FSIL and the closest friend : (3 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 4
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    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Honestly, I’m not sure why you are rushing to choose your BP right now, you are still 15 months out from the wedding. I will tell you from experience that a LOT can happen in that time. I waited until I was 9 months out, and I’m glad I did because a girl I had been considering several months earlier fell out of the picture.

    Also, you might be setting yourself up for disappointment by automatically assuming each girl you picked will be able to make ‘every’ event — that’s asking a lot. It’s also kind of a sad reason, IMO, to NOT pick a BM.

    I’m of the belief that siblings should be included if it is important to your FH, but I know many people see that differently so it is ultimately your decision. IMO though the reason you gave for not choosing FSIL was kind of lame.

    Post # 5
    Member
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t necessarily have a hard time picking them but wish I would have waited a little longer, because I’ve since become GREAT friends with someone who’s not…and one of my bm’s is driving me insane and I can hardly stand her these days (she’s suuuuper jealous that she’s not engaged yet…long story).

    Also, when deciding on my order a few weeks ago, I ended up making my bff my 2nd Matron of Honor — my sister was the obvious choice but with everything I also wanted to give the honor to my bff!

    Post # 6
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    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I guess I don’t understand why this is such a hard decision for people. Just ask the women who you are close with / who you want to stand up with you on your wedding day.

    FI and I have an uneven bridal party. I asked however many people I wanted and he asked however many people he wanted. We ended up with 6 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. I didn’t think it was fair to have to choose between friends and family members just because I have more family/more close friends then my FI does. Or for FI to ask people he wasn’t close with just so the numbers would add up.

    If you want your FSIL and your other friends to be in your wedding party, then just ask them! But if you really don’t want them because of the reasons you listed, then that is okay too!

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