- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
im not sure if im being out of line here.
my bridesmaids dresses are being specially made, and im paying for them.
as a little previwe of the wedding i set a date for a bridal lunch (with two and a half months notice), themed in our wedding colors (complete with chair sashes and decorations), and wedding food and i gave them all bridesmaids boxes that included their instructions for the day, jewelry for the day, and little chocolates etc, all themed in our wedding colours. My mother and i spent about three weeks making them and buying all the bits (they had quite a few elements to them and there are seven bridesmaids).
two bridesmaids didnt show, and some didnt seem to want to be there.
for my hens night we all suggested we travel three hours to a better destination as my town doesnt have a great night life. So when i put my Maid/Matron of Honor incharge i didnt expect to be paying for all of my hens night myself (Were talking over $1000 here). Granted i gave her a budget, and said “see what you can do with that”, but there are seven bridesmaids, only having so far paid for accomodation for the weekend (which is about $150), but arent the bridesmaids supposed to help out a bit more?
then theres the other problem that not even all of them have commited to going to the celebratone of which is my own sister), and three of them i havent heard from since i asked them to be bridesmaids.
some (like my MOH) have been tremendous, but there are some that are really lacking, in what i expected.
i know they all have other jobs and lives etc, but if they couldnt help me or werent interested, why did they accept to be a bridesmaid??
i guess im just feeling underwhelmed and unsure how to approach it.
has anyone else had unhelpful BM’s? What did you do about it?
these are people that i really love and trust, and i feel like im putting more effort into them than they are for me..