Bridesmaid's best friend just engaged…

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Why would it be a problem? As long as the weddings aren’t on the same days, there shouldn’t be conflict.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i agree-dont know why it would be a problem

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it should be a problem.  If the other girl asks your BM to be one of her BMs, you could always address your concerns with your friends and let her tell you they aren’t necessary!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@raziel1687:  not a problem at all– she obviously seems like a great friend since other people are also attracted to being around her.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@raziel1687:  Of course there won’t be a problem.  It’s fine to pick her brain or ask her opinion, but she shouldn’t really be doing anything for you that would take much of her time.  

Having too much of a problem with this would be like saying she’s not allowed to have other friends…

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@raziel1687:  Cna’t understand the problem, please elaborate.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I dont see a problem with this…and I have never heard of it being etiquette to not be a bridesmaid for 2 brides. Seems a bit precious to me.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@raziel1687:  I don’t think there will be an issue.  It shoud be a fun and joyous occasion for all involved and maybe the two of you will become closer because of this.

Please don’t hate me for asking—Are you a little jealous that she planned for her wedding to be before yours instead of after?  

 

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No, month apart should be fine, sure she now has to go to two showers and bach party events but they should be timed fairly far apart and not be an issue.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

if you are concerned paying for hair/makeup/manicures will be too much, maybe you could offer to help pay for hers or not require her to get them all done?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@raziel1687:  I don’t see why it would be a problem. Are you worried because you planned to lean on her at times and now you’re worried she won’t be there? I’m sure your BM will balance the two weddings just fine and give you as much help as she wants to give. Unless you plan on being one of those ‘it’s all about me all of the time’ brides then there will be no problems. 

And hey, even if there are a few scheduling conflicts – it’s important to remember that your BM has a life outside of your wedding. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@raziel1687:  How are you “sharing”? I don’t understand. Your weddings aren’t the same day or even the same week. I can’t see a conflict here.

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