Bridesmaids / Bridesmen

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@Bond-MrsBond:  My brother is my man of honor. He will get ready with my dad, away from us. Then join us when it is time to walk down the aisle. I don’t want my dad seeing me before I am ready, but my brother can. If needed he will be the go between for any messages or issues that come up. The groomsmen’s job is to set up the chairs and decorations the morning of. Other than helping my mom where need be, wearing a matching suit, wearing a bout, standing next to me and signing as witness, he doesn’t have a job. If he wasn’t related to me and FH was okay with it they would all get ready together, but FH has 3 brothers who will all be staying in the hotel room, and another friend as GM so it will be crowded already. He will probably join the bachelore party if he comes into town soon enough. The guys will be up there waiting when the bridesmaids come in on their own. 

Post # 4
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would not include someone who cant even come see me for 6 months. If she isnt interested enough to make a little time to spend with you just to talk then why would she be interested in being a bridesmaid. Then, you will have the stories that other bees have of bridesmaids that dont want to do anything (get fitted for or order a dress, attend events, etc). As far as the brother’s ex…that’s awkward. I think I wouldve deleted her off of my FB. Since you didnt and she clearly will see everything I think you need to tell her she isnt a bridesmaid.

We had an uneven bridal party because we had a groomsmen that told us he couldnt make it only 3 days before the wedding. Trust me, it made no difference…

Post # 6
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@Bond-MrsBond:  Why even bother with this girl anymore? You haven’t been able to chat or anything since summer … Well, she is obviously too busy for anything.

I don’t know what the issue is with the bridesman? I have a man of honour and he will be with us the entire day, except at the salon – but if you want to just ask what he is comfortable with re the getting ready. My Priest is even okay with it lol. 

As for uneven numbers … No biggie. I know a few people who have had uneven numbers. I am having one, if not two less than FI (depending on what happens with one BM). So our wedding party may be my one female bridesmaid and man of honour, best man, and three other groomsmen.

Don’t stress 🙂 You will have the people with you that really want to be with you and are not too busy.

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