Bridesmaids canceling with less then 10 days left

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Nobody will care if the names in the programs are correct, so just let that go. Also, matching numbers don’t matter. It isn’t about symmetry, it’s about having important people stand up with you. Just breathe and know that it doesn’t matter because the wedding isn’t about them – it’s about you and your FI.

Post # 4
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FutureArmyWife12:  That really sucks!  Why did they have to bail so late in the game?

As far as having uneven sides goes, don’t worry about it!  It won’t look strange at all.  You can either have 2 guys escort each girl, alternate guy, girl, guy, girl, guy and have the BM stand up next to your groom from the start, or just have all the GM start up at the front with your groom and only have the girls walk.

Post # 5
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureArmyWife12:  I would be so mad at them and hurt!

Try to get past it – if they dont want to be by your side for your wedding day – then they dont deserve the title of bridesmaid.

Post # 6
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well … it depends on why they dropped out, if its a reason beyond their control then it’s not their fault.

Post # 7
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Thats tough 🙁 My MOH dropped out 8 days before, I get how you feel. But DON’T WORRY! Your wedding will be beautiful and ultimately you will have two very important friends standing up with you who were willing to spend time just for you!

Post # 10
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would be hurt and livid if my BMs bailed on my right now.  I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this. It is very rude and inconsiderate of them, especially when you’ve spent so much money on them already.  

I’m confused though.  They have personal reasons why they cant be a BM? Are they not coming to your wedding at all then?

If mine bailed on me like that they better be laid up in the hospital or have a family crisis going on.

Anyway, your day will be fabulous date twin!! Try not to stress over it too much, they obviously aren’t that concerned with your feelings. 

Post # 11
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FutureArmyWife12:  Okay, take a deep breath. It will be okay, you will still have an amazing wedding and the pictures will be amazing. It will still be an AMAZING day.

I understand why this is frustrating, but feel it, and move on from it. Don’t let this put a cloud on your big day!

If it makes you feel any better, I had two girls (1 MOH and 1 bridesmaid) and DH only had a best man.

It doesn’t have to be even, it will turn out great!

Edit: Some people are never prepared, our best man didn’t even have a suit… 6 days before the wedding!


Post # 13
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Everything will be ok!  I started with 4 BMs and one dropped out a month before my wedding last year.      Also, to top that, the morning of my wedding my MOH dropped out (we don’t speak anymore).  So I ended up with two BMs and DH had 3 groomsmen.  I didn’t have time to adjust the names on the programs the morning of my wedding but no one said anything about the extra name.  And I had two of the guys escort one of the girls down the aisle.

You really want people who will support you and who are great friends standing up there with you.. even if it is only 1 or 2 people.   However, I do understand about being angry & hurt.  My wedding was almost a year ago and I still think about it and am hurt, although I just keep telling myself you can’t change the past or force people to act differently.  In the end my wedding day was THE best day of my life and I would get married again in a heartbeat!


Post # 14
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@FutureArmyWife12:  Wow, I bet that is frustrating! So sorry! I agree with you, I wouldn’t be able to talk to them at all until I calmed down about it.  Which probably wouldn’t be until after the wedding. 

Post # 16
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Could you maybe choose someone else and have them buy their own dresses from a department store? Or maybe buy the existing BM dresses and have them altered?

Sucky situation; you shouldn’t be going through this!

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