Bridesmaids choosing their own dresses?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
45399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Moorea12:  My BM’s wore lack dresses of their own choosing. They looked great.

Post # 4
1382 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Moorea12:  My girls and I went to the dress store, I showed them the color I really liked (well, I showed them the palette and they all picked the one I actually picked immediately lol), and they picked their dress from the same designer. That way the dresses can be cut from the same dye batch and be the same color, but different styles. 

I think both of the pictures you posted would look fine. Just ask your girls to coordinate or at least let you know ahead of time what they’re planning on so if there is one that’s off when all the rest match it can be fixed. 

Post # 5
9243 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it can be done and look great BUT you should approve every dress before they buy to make sure the palette is balanced. It also helps to give a vibe – “boho” “classic” “sequins” “modern” whatever, to keep it cohesive. The first pic you showed are def bridesmaid dresses in a color palette picked by the designer, if you’re using normal dresses you need to be more discerning.

Post # 7
9243 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Moorea12:  I helped my bride friend make a dress inspiration email to send to the other BMs. It had color palette, fabric suggestions, inspiration pics, and like 20 links of dresses that would work at all different price points.

Post # 8
1123 posts
Bumble bee

Moorea12:  All of my bridesmaids chose different long chiffon dresses in shades ranging from beige to a pink shade. I did assign the colors based on their decisions to make the overall look more coordinated. I loved the way it looked. 

Post # 9
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Moorea12:  I gave my girls 6 options and let them decide in their own. I was in a wedding that the bride let us pick any dress as long as it was gold sequins and short. We sent her a pic first and she gave us approval, it turned out great and all of the dress worked well together. 

Post # 10
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Moorea12:  this is what I’m doing. I don’t have a theme, but I have a six(ish) color pallette. I’m going for a beachy “vibe” instead of seahorses and starfish everywhere.

My BMs have been given the pallette, and IDGAF what they wear as long as its long(ish) so there is just a touch of uniformity. Color and style and brand is up to them. I’d take a $40 target dress if they’re comfy.

Post # 11
1800 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m hoping I can do the same thing. I love too many colors to be able to keep it to one, and its VERY hard to find a dress that looks good on any and every body type

Post # 12
3908 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Moorea12:  I decided a long time ago I wanted my girls to pick their own dresses based on a color scheme. I for one just don’t like bridesmaids dresses and didn’t want to force my bridesmaids to purchase an overpriced dress. Instead, I settled on a color scheme I liked and made a guide using dresses from ModCloth as to what I was looking for. Below is my color scheme. I’m perfectly aware and expecting overlap and some variations in colors.

Post # 13
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Love these looks! Just make sure to give SOME guidance. As a BM it’s hard to know what will make the bride happy. Definitely give length instructions, overall “vibe,” and picture examples so it doesn’t stress everyone out.

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