Post # 1
I’m not engaged yet (sometime before Christmas!), but I’ve been thinking I probably will want to do something where I give my BMs a color palette and dress length and ask them to find a dress they love.
Has anyone done this to awesome results (photos would be great!)? Has anyone done this and the BMs didn’t look good together, or they had trouble finding a dress with such little direction? I would love more insight into this method of choosing dresses!
Post # 2
Moorea12: My BM’s wore lack dresses of their own choosing. They looked great.
Post # 3
Has anyone done anything kind of like this?
sorry if they’re huge!
I’m wondering how these looks actually get coordinated. What would happen if I asked girls to buy a pink, tan, or cream dress, and like all but one chose the same pink color? Wouldn’t that look off? I’m wondering if these brides chose specific dresses for each girl and it just LOOKS mismatchy?
Post # 4
Moorea12: My girls and I went to the dress store, I showed them the color I really liked (well, I showed them the palette and they all picked the one I actually picked immediately lol), and they picked their dress from the same designer. That way the dresses can be cut from the same dye batch and be the same color, but different styles.
I think both of the pictures you posted would look fine. Just ask your girls to coordinate or at least let you know ahead of time what they’re planning on so if there is one that’s off when all the rest match it can be fixed.
Post # 5
I think it can be done and look great BUT you should approve every dress before they buy to make sure the palette is balanced. It also helps to give a vibe – “boho” “classic” “sequins” “modern” whatever, to keep it cohesive. The first pic you showed are def bridesmaid dresses in a color palette picked by the designer, if you’re using normal dresses you need to be more discerning.
Post # 6
MrsBuesleBee: that’s a great point! Explaining a “vibe” would help a ton I think.
Post # 7
Moorea12: I helped my bride friend make a dress inspiration email to send to the other BMs. It had color palette, fabric suggestions, inspiration pics, and like 20 links of dresses that would work at all different price points.
Post # 8
Moorea12: All of my bridesmaids chose different long chiffon dresses in shades ranging from beige to a pink shade. I did assign the colors based on their decisions to make the overall look more coordinated. I loved the way it looked.
Post # 9
Moorea12: I gave my girls 6 options and let them decide in their own. I was in a wedding that the bride let us pick any dress as long as it was gold sequins and short. We sent her a pic first and she gave us approval, it turned out great and all of the dress worked well together.
Post # 10
Moorea12: this is what I’m doing. I don’t have a theme, but I have a six(ish) color pallette. I’m going for a beachy “vibe” instead of seahorses and starfish everywhere.
My BMs have been given the pallette, and IDGAF what they wear as long as its long(ish) so there is just a touch of uniformity. Color and style and brand is up to them. I’d take a $40 target dress if they’re comfy.
Post # 11
I’m hoping I can do the same thing. I love too many colors to be able to keep it to one, and its VERY hard to find a dress that looks good on any and every body type
Post # 12
Moorea12: I decided a long time ago I wanted my girls to pick their own dresses based on a color scheme. I for one just don’t like bridesmaids dresses and didn’t want to force my bridesmaids to purchase an overpriced dress. Instead, I settled on a color scheme I liked and made a guide using dresses from ModCloth as to what I was looking for. Below is my color scheme. I’m perfectly aware and expecting overlap and some variations in colors.
Post # 13
Love these looks! Just make sure to give SOME guidance. As a BM it’s hard to know what will make the bride happy. Definitely give length instructions, overall “vibe,” and picture examples so it doesn’t stress everyone out.