Post # 1
I am wondering if I am asking my bridesmaids to spend to much money.
Alterations- 80-100 (this is the cheapest I could find for my area)
Hair- 55 plus tip
Total- 364 (thats with the more expensive alterations and a 20% tip)
Any gifts, the bachelorette party, shower, ect, is what they decide to spend on their own. They control these costs.
Post # 3
@Sammy86: I think its totally fine. I am going to be a bridesmaid (for the first time) next september and I plan on spending around $500 even though we have not started planning anything. Do any of your bridesmaids have money problems? that would be my only concern. If you have a bridesmaid that you know wont be able to afford it.
I think my BMs spent $250/person for my wedding.
Post # 4
I don’t understand why the dresses need alterations? None of my girl’s dresses needed any. (Alfred Sung dresses).
I didn’t require hair or makeup and all of my girls prefered to do their own.
But no I don’t think those costs are too much.
Post # 5
sounds reasonable to me and much less expensive than my BMs will end up paying.
Post # 6
I think its reasonable – assuming your girls do not have money problems.
Mine spent about 200 each, give or take. Only one needed alterations because of her height the dress needed to be hemmed.
Post # 7
Sounds reasonable to me. I spent about $500 in a wedding I was in last year
Post # 8
Perfectly reasonable! Those costs sound about average to me.
Post # 9
My girls’ dresses cost between $110-130, not sure on alterations, hair will run them about $50, and they can choose whatever shoes they’d like so it could be free or however much they decide to pay. I’m paying for their make-up though. All in all, they’ll spend about $250-300, which is about standard.
Post # 10
I’m ok with the dress. Alterations may not be necessary. Is the dress long? If yes, shoes really aren’t necessary but the price isn’t that bad. Honestly- I feel if you want the hair done for that cost, you should have said something before they accepted. (Disclaimer: I come from an area which was pretty hard by the repression. So I tend to be of the ‘cheap’ mindset) Altogether though, the price isn’t that bad. I was stretched pretty thin in the wedding I was in mostly because of the total for dress/hair/shower/bachelorette.
Post # 11
Personally, I am from the school of thought that if you want their hair to be done – then the bride should pay for it, otherwise give them the choice to have their hair professionally done or allow them to do it themselves.
On the other hand, if your girls are completely comfortable with the all in cost, then go for it!
Post # 12
All are ok with this but one. She’s ok with everything but the alterations.
However, the dresses all are different lengths on them and with them being short, they need to be hemed to hit the same spot on the leg. When we bought the dress, they decided that they wanted to change the strapless dress to a halter dress so I bought the extra fabric to have this done and they also need to have the sides and bust area taken in.
Post # 13
@Sammy86: The BMs decided they wanted to change the dress to a halter? This may be a little frank but I’m guessing you have a reason but why didn’t you guys just buy a halter dress? (out of curiosity)
If she was part of the “lets change the dress” camp, then I guess she made her bed…
Post # 14
Before my wedding I thought hemming the dresses to hit the same part of the leg was necessary. Unfortunately we just didn’t get around to it. In my wedding pictures, you don’t notice it one bit though. Just a thought!
Post # 15
Those costs sound average to me.
But maybe give your bridesmaids the option of choosing their own tailor/seamstress? I needed my dress taken in for my best friend’s wedding and took it to my local dry cleaner who did all of my family’s alterations. He took in the dress for about $40, where the bridal salon wanted to charge me over $100 for the same work.
Post # 16
She was actually one of the leaders of lets change the dress. The dress came with spaghetti straps, but they wanted halter, because of support. They liked the style of the dress but didn’t fell supported enough, being strapless or halter didn’t mean anything to me so I just said fine.
The only problem with their own place is the halter top. There is only one piece of extra fabric and I don’t have the time to run it all over to all the different tailors. Plus they all agreed to go to the same place. We aren’t going to the bridal store their it would have been over $150.
Thanks for all responses. I just want to make sure I wasn’t asking to much. I’ve tried to keep costs low. I know the dresses were more expensive. I even bought all their shoes at buy one get one half off to save them money and just praying they pay me back and they don’t screw me for trying to keep their costs lower.