Bridesmaids Crisis – Need advice!

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think you need to see it on alk the girls.  What looks greay on a size 8 might look really unflattering on a size 24. The dresses espe the jim dresses look designed for petite girls with small boobs. The larger girls may be uncomfortable and have a massive lack of support in those dresses.

Post # 3
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Newbee

As a plus size former-bridesmaid-now-a-bride, I can tell you that I like at least PART of the dress to not be form-fitting (thus, the first AA makes me more than a little panicky – if you don’t have an hourglass to start, that dresss might not be the most comfortable). Sweetheart necklines are nice for those of us with boobs-for-days, and A-Lines are generally flattering (that would be your second AA dress). 

The Jim Hjelm are totally gorgeous, but I think if you were going to go with that designer you would be better off with your second dress.

Keep in mind that your bigger BMs will need to wear bras! If there is a very low back, or a very revealing back, your girls may have a LOT of trouble finding a bra in their size that will work with the dress.  I just dealt with this with my MOH and was really glad she pointed it out to me — it eliminated two dresses right off the bat.  She is more important to me than any look I could ever imagine.

 

GOOD LUCK!!!

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Based on the form-fitting bottom of the first AA, if that looks good on the bigger sized BMs, then both of the JH dresses will be flattering-they seem more forgiving, especially the second JH – which happens to be my favorite of the 4, anyway. 🙂

Maybe a store has similar styles in the sample sizes you need so that you can get a better idea? But I do think that the lsat dress will be the most flattering on all figures. However, I’ve always been on the more flat chested side and dont have to think too much about boobage issues so like PP said, I would get your BMs opinion as to how they feel about that particular dress bc bra issues might be a problem.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I agree 100% with pretty much everyone. That first JJ Helm is lovely, but from my own POV, I wouldn’t be comfortable in it (I am a bridal 20 thanks to my hips lol), especially how snug it fits at the hips/belly. The second one would be cute though – a little flow is nice. it even looks like it would accomodate a normal bra!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

GBBBride:  First off, what is the budget your bridesmaids have agreed to?  That way we can help look online within your price range?

Secondly, agreed with the others a more full figured woman likely won’t be comfortable in many of those styles.  Why not give them a colour or a designer and say ‘go’!  That way they can pick something they like and will feel comfortable in?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

As a thin gal with a large rack, that second Hjelm would not work for me because of the way it is cut – you could not wear a normal bra with it (even a strapless bra would probably be too high in the front and the armholes are also cut deep).  Also these all look pretty bridesmaidy – nothing wrong with that, but I don’t think the Hjelm ones look any less like a bridesmaid dress than the others, and are just as likely to never be worn again.  I agree with PPs to just pick a color and let the gals find a dress that suits them that they are comfortable in.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Another vote against anything that has a slim fitting skirt and for anything that lets you wear a real bra.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think every bridesmaid needs to try on the dress, and unless you’re paying for the dresses, you may want to spend some time looking in more reasonable price ranges. $175 is an awful lot of money for a bridesmaid dress and even for bridesmaids with nice salaries, it is IMHO too much to ask them to pay for a dress for your wedding vision.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I would look absolutely horrible in all of those (very lovely) dresses. If I were asked to wear one I would secretly cry. I am short, even in heels, and even shapewear would not help me out in this situation. I add my voice to those who say pick a color, not a style!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

GBBBride:  Please pick a color and designer and let your BM pick their own dress

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

KoiKove:  +1

That’s what I was going to suggest. My friend did that when I was a BM, and I’m doing that with my girls now. I still get the look I’m going for, but my girls get to pick a flattering dress. Everyone looks great and I’m happy! 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

GBBBride:  I think the Alfred Angelos will be very unflattering on larger body types, and the Jim Helms might not have a lot of boobage support. Since you have a large range of body types its best to let them choose they style- that is what I did. Mine all picked the same dress ( and I wanted them to choose different ones lol!)

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

GBBBride:  This is why I like going the route of having bridesmaids pick dresses from the same designer/same color/same fabric. If there are dresses you just don’t want, you can let them know. You said you want them to stand out- so let them be their best selves! 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - Stroudsmoor

I personally would not feel comfortable having my ladies purchase a dress that only one could try on. Like some others have said, what looks good on a size 8 might not look the same on someone who is a size 24. I took my girls to Alfred Angelo last weekend and wanted to make sure they ended up with a dress that they all liked and felt comfortable with. I had a vision in my mind, but was willing to compromise on a dress that suited all of their body types and they felt comfortable and beautiful in. But this is just my opinion. It’s your wedding and ultimately you should do what you want. 

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