Post # 1
So I can only have four bridesmaids, and coz I needed to include my FSIL (long story) I couldnt have one of my best friends by my side 🙁
my friend is a very understanding friend and I am including her in everything and I have a couple of ways to include her in the ceremony as I asked her to do a reading. I have shirts been made up for “bridesmaids” and “MOH” and “bride” and I would love to have a surprise one for her too, but what to “call” on her shirt? Weird I know but it was her idea to do this
I know a lot of you will say have odd bridesmaids/groomsmen but I couldnt have everyone and we only really became close after I got engaged, so it’s making things tricky now the wedding is getting closer… And god love her she is helping my MOH throw the bridal shower & hens & is so excited for me!
i am struggling though coz I am starting to feel guilty that I didn’t include her as a bridesmaid although we were as close as we have become when I had initially gotten engaged, and the girls that I have by my side are the girls I have truly relied on my whole life!
i guess you can tell by this post my head is so confused over this 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I had a similar situation–had just our sisters as BMs and that meant my two BFFs were not in the wedding. (Well, one married us, but that’s a bit different.) They completely randomly ended up with coordinatiing dresses as well. Anyway, we were jokingly calling them the “B team.” They were cool with it and thought it was funny. I also referred to them as my “secret bridesmaids” since they did way more briadesmaidey stuff than his sisters did. If the girl is cool you could do somehting like that. I also made sure my friends were in some of the pictures that we took before the ceremony too so we have that memory.
Post # 4
@bs942: She’s a new friend, so don’t feel guilty about not having her in your bridal party. You can still have close friends who aren’t in the bridal party.
I say skip the t-shirts altogether. I think that’s better than presenting t-shirts to some girls but not others, while she (and perhaps other non-bridesmaids) are present.
Post # 5
She sounds like a great friend, so will be really understanding. I say dont change anything, and dont feel bad. Just make sure that she knows how appreciated she is, maybe a gift to be presented during speaches and special thanks for all her hard work and support. as soontobeMresBoo says, some pictures as well so that you have the memories. Sorry, the best i could come up with for her t would be wedding angel/fairy etc. magical creature that works for nothing…..but these may not be apropirate.
Post # 6
Thanks girls, appreciate your advice! I slept on it & I think I’m gonna give the shirts a miss and try and do something more personal so it has a bit more meaning & they can use/wear it after the ceremony
@soontobemrsboo – thanks for your ideas, it’s good to know someone else experiencing a similar thing! We will def be getting before the ceremony pics as i have a lot of my gfs getting ready with me the morning of 🙂