- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Personally, I think the reason you ask someone to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man is not because of who will be the most helpful, but who you are the closest to. You need to fix the poll to only let 1 option since you’re only picking 1 girl now and to revise the question to say 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. And you need to tell me who between friend 2, 3 and 4 you are closest to. Whether they’re busy with life is a secondary issue, IMO.
I would probably go with friend #2 since she’s expressed the most interest in your wedding and you are closer to her than friend #4. I’m newly married and thinking about new home issues, but I am definitely less busy/occupied than my pregnant friends.
I would avoid friend #3 bc she is busy with her pregnancy and there could be drama in the future if you want a lot from her (e.g. help with planning, attending apppointments, going to all the parties). Plus, finances could be an issue for her.
@futuremrsk18: I am really stuck between friend #2 and #3, to be honest.. I’m close to both of them. That’s why their “busy” life is what I’ve been factoring in… I don’t want them to be put in the dilemma of having to “decline” my bridesmaid invite… but I guess either way, I will never know unless I ask.
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