(Closed) Bridesmaids Dilemma – To Keep or not to Keep?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
583 posts
Busy bee

I didn’t really see in there any reasons to keep them.  Why invite drama into your life when you don’t have to?  Their actions are screaming for you to kick them out; they probably just don’t have the balls to decline.  Sorry you’re going through this!

Post # 4
17 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is YOUR day. You have been MORE than accomodating to them. I say kick them to the curb. To eliminate drama completely, don’t even invite them to the wedding! It’s clear that these so-called friends have made your life miserable, and I can’t understand why you are even thinking of still involving them. In fact, the issue with your dog would have been enough for me… I’m sorry, NO ONE treats animals poorly and gets to still be around me.

I know it’s hard, but I think deep down, you know you don’t want them to ruin any more of your fun in preparing for the big day. Enough is enough. Get rid of them. You will feel SO much better.


Post # 5
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Why would you ask someone who had been cruel to your aging dog to be your bridesmaid? Even more importantly, anyone that would insult your fiance should automatically be out. 

Give them the boot, they aren’t really your friends anyway! 

Post # 6
717 posts
Busy bee

these girls are just toxic and making you and your Fiance, BMs and family miserable, enough already.  remove them from the bridal party and if they can support you as guests at the wedding, great.  if not, great.  if they do come to the wedding and cause problems, have them escorted out.  do not be afraid to be assertive, some people are just beyond the bounds of common courtesy

Post # 7
3303 posts
Sugar bee

If everyone wants them out and you don’t care…. Take them out.

Post # 8
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

they should have been booted a long time ago, its hard to do, but these 2 are clearly not supportive of your wedding or happy for you.

Post # 9
7421 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Good riddance to them. Kick them the hell out. They never should have been asked in the first place. Why do want to continue the drama. Out! Out! Out!

Post # 10
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t usually agree with “demoting” BMs or kicking them out.

But you need to get rid of these two.  They are not your friends.

Post # 11
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Kick them out!!  Your other Bridesmaid or Best Man will thank you for doing so.  I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man this past weekend and we were divided down the middle.  We even went junior high lunchroom on them and kicked them off our table.  They were rude, didn’t help, and it seem like it was an opportunity for them to dress up and have people look at them.  I was so tired from helping that I didnt enjoy the wedding.  I have no idea what the bride was thinking asking those girls to be a part of her day.

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