Post # 1
I am having a major dilemma about choosing bridesmaids! So far I have my sister and 2 very close friends who have been important to me and my FH. One friend is on my FH’s side and the other is one of my friends who i have known all my life. I have another lifelong friend who I am not as close to but we always said we would be each others bridesmaids. My problem is that my FH, sister, one bridesmaid and my mother are not keen on having my other close friend as bridesmaid. I can understand where they are coming from because she is very loud and likes to make everything about her and as I say we are not as close now. She is also getting married around the same time as me and is having me as bridesmaid which makes me feel worse about not wanting her to be part of my wedding party. I don’t want to upset anybody but I am completely confused!!!! Hope this makes sense : / x
Post # 3
@lildiane: I think youre only as good as your word so you should have her in your wedding as well.
Post # 4
When did you tell her you would be in each other’s weddings? Are we talking about as children? If that’s the case, you probably shouldn’t ask her. Your FI’s opinion is important here too, especially because it’s important to him.
Post # 5
@AlwaysSunny: Well we spoke about it as children and then fell out of touch for some years. We met back up a year ago and I think she has just assumed that she is bridemaid and i have just gone along with it.
Post # 6
@lildiane: I really don’t think you’re held by a promise you made when you were a child. It’s nice of her to include you in her wedding but you don’t have to reciprocate. Think of it this way – if you don’t include her she may be upset for a little while, but if you do include her everyone else will be upset dealing with her for the next year or so.
Unless YOU really want to have her, I wouldn’t.
Post # 7
@lildiane: I think she has just assumed that she is bridemaid and i have just gone along with it.
Sorry to say it, but you’re making the situation worse by allowing her to continue thinking she’s in the bridal party. If she makes comments about including herself, you need to step up and be honest with her.