Bridesmaids Drama

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: My Opinion is..
    Get over it, you're being an immature drama queen : (57 votes)
    28 %
    I feel so bad for you, don't pay for the dress. It's not your responsibility. : (107 votes)
    52 %
    Pay for them to get the dress : (43 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    42490 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @mariana17:  How much is the dress?

    I can’t really comment because I don’t know the ins and outs of the situation. Normally there is more to the story.

    Post # 4
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    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @julies1949:  Agreed. How much is the dress? That can be a big factor in all of this…

    Post # 6
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Just be glad its now and not later. It’s their loss, not yours. Hope things work out! 🙂 

    Post # 7
    Member
    42490 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @mariana17:  Maybe they really can’t afford it. Maybe it really isn’t figure flattering, nor would they wear it again.  Maybe they are just done.

    Luckily, it really isn’t the last possible moment.

    Post # 9
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    9226 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Ok they were being immature when they said it is ugly, they should not have said that to you! But why don’t you pay for the dress for the ones who can’t afford it? As one said they will not wear it again, and are only wearing it for YOUR wedding, so why don’t you pay for it?

    Post # 10
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would say that dress truly isn’t flattering on everybody.

     

    But that’s kind of the way of the world with bridesmaid dresses and I’m sorry you are going through this.

    Post # 12
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    9226 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @mariana17:  Everyone is different, but I think if you want to have them in the wedding you do need to pay for the dresses. Finances shouldn’t have to be the reason for anyone to be unable to participate in their close friend’s wedding.

    Post # 13
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    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @mariana17:  I’m sorry you are going through this.  It’s very hard when you have people that have committed to being a part of your special day suddenly decide to pull out – no matter how far away the wedding is I think it is hurtful at any stage.  They are your friends and you want them to be there for you (and for them to feel special and honoured to be your bridesmaids!).

    I’m concerned about your MOH pulling out as well.  Has something else happened in your friendship here?  I would be extremely upset if my MOH said the only reason she didn’t want to be a part of my big day is because she can’t afford it.  Surely you two can work something out together financially.

    I’d be interested to know if those that have pulled out are still expecting to attend the wedding even though they won’t be in your bridal party?? 

    Post # 15
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    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    [content moderated for snark, name-calling]

    For what it’s worth… I’d be pissed off too! And you are 1000000% allowed to be pissed off And you are allowed to vent! Don’t let people feel like you don’t have the right to be.

    We have enough stresses planning weddings without needing other people’s bitterness toward life dumped on us!

    i’d have a chat with your girls face to face over coffee maybe, no txt message crap…tell them how important it was to have them in your day, let them tell thou their side, be understanding of each other ands move forward from there!

    best of luck

    Post # 16
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    22 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    your day will go just a perfect without them in it! I think you should turn your attention to those who have stuck by you through it all. The ones who are honoured to be at your side. Once you forget about those who have dropped out you will be able to enjoy the planning again.

    Good luck x

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