Post # 1
I came into this board tonight because I too am having bridesmaid drama. Only with one BM who happens to be my FSIL. As I scroll down all of the posts complaning of BM’s I come to the realization that it is so sad that at such a happy, special time for us brides someone has to rain on our parade. I am so sick of trying to please everyone else and being nice to my FSIL and keeping her in the wedding party when she has been a terrible friend to me. Just sad that the worst side of people comes out during times like these. Sorry to anyone else who has had to deal with drama as well, it is a terrible feeling!
Post # 3
@HealthyHappyFutureMrs.H: Aww so sorry to hear! Hopefully you and your BM can get through it okay!
Post # 4
Aw how awful for you, what has she been doing. One of my bms who will be my FSIL wont even try dresses on so weve just had to go and pick one she wouldnt even look at the picture. Ive just messaged the other two FSILs and told them to go and arrange getting measured. My other bm is brilliant went with me to the bridal shop and to the dress maker appointment and even chatted to me about the wedding. Unfortunately I just decided to focus doing things with my bm whos bothered.
Post # 5
Aw how awful for you, what has she been doing. One of my bms who will be my FSIL wont even try dresses on so weve just had to go and pick one she wouldnt even look at the picture. Ive just messaged the other two FSILs and told them to go and arrange getting measured. My other bm is brilliant went with me to the bridal shop and to the dress maker appointment and even chatted to me about the wedding. Unfortunately I just decided to focus doing things with my bm whos bothered. Reading the forums there always seems to be some bridesmaid problems I wish I thought about who I picked but I asked.
Post # 6
@HealthyHappyFutureMrs.H: I am sorry that you are disappointed with your FSIL. I think brides are too easily pressured into having people they think they should have in their weddings rather than the people they want.
But I also think it is fair to say that there are an equal amount of posts about how badly behaved brides are as well. Unfortunately it seems weddings can also bring out the worst traits in brides who seem to forget entirely that the world does not revolve around them and their wedding.
Post # 7
@HealthyHappyFutureMrs.H: It sucks that you aren’t getting along with your FSIL and I’m sorry she’s bringing things down. Hopefully she can just be happy for you guys on your big day. I gotta say though I think a lot of the brides on here bring the drama on themselves.
Usually when brides are to blame it’s something like:
1. The bride(zilla) has unrealistic expectations and a spoiled attitude. Nothing is ever good enough for her. She expects $500 dresses, a destination bach party, a hugely elaborate bridal shower – the works. When her BMs (who are not millionaires)fail to provide this she posts a ‘SOOOOO disappointed! Horrible BMs!’ rant on the bee where she talks about kicking BMs out of her wedding party.
2. The bride expects everything to revolve around her and her wedding. If someone doesn’t bring up her big day in a conversation or doesn’t want to hear about embroidered napkins then she’ll write an angry post on the bee about how everyone hates her. This girl expects her bridesmaids to be on call at all times, despite the fact that said BMs are often full time students, moms, work demanding jobs, live far away etc. The bride posts a ‘Feel so alone. Everyone is horrible!’ rant.
3. The bride intends to lean on her MOH/BMs a lot for emotional support and help with the weddng. Unfortunately she chooses friends she knows to be unstable, girls who she has rocky friendship with,people she has grown apart from, and relatives she does not like. When the drama typical of these relationships ensues she gets angry and blames everyone but herself for not using her common sense and keeping these people out of her bridal party. The bride will always say ‘but I overlooked that’ when she talks about choosing her BMs in her post. Why?! Why would you overlook glaring problems?