- 4 years ago
Hello, long time follower… first time writer.
I feel a little late, but I’m just unsure whether it’s just my pre-wedding jitters or I’m being played… okay…
So, to start… my fiance decided that he wanted five groomsmen, and because of my superstitious family I chose an equal number of bridesmaids. My choices consisted of my two closest friends, one who came from interstate to help me, one dear friend from University, her sister and on my fiance’s request, my future sister-in-law.
Now, I have paid for their dresses, hair & make-up just because I thought if I’m fair to them, they’ll be fair with me. All that I needed from them, was to agree to a style of dress that would hopefully flatter them all, for them to buy any white or silver shoes (flats or heals, doesn’t bother me) and to give me their measurements so we can get their dresses ready. The dresses arrived a fortnight ago. I notified everyone, so that they can come and try them on to see if any altrrations needed to be made. That is where the fun begins…..
My maid of honour, who has come from the other side of the country came the following day, tried the dress and no joking, looked like a princess! Absolutely stunning! Since the other girls wanted to see what the dress looked like, I MMS’ed them the photo of my MOH. Now, my MOH is tall and slender and she looks amazing in anything! But that’s where I think jealousy started to arise with some of the girls…
My dear friend from University and her sister didn’t have any issues with the dress and agreed that it is beautiful and said that they would come in a fortnight to try it on (today). When they came they looked even more incredible than previously thought and we were all really excited! The colour complemented them so well! And the style was so flattering!
My future Sister-in-law hated it! She accidentally sent me a text message whom she was intending to somebody else saying “I told her I don’t want a strapless dress, and what does she get? A strapless dress!” Mind you, the dress does have straps, and she mentioned she doesn’t want a short dress, not strapless! I was so disappointed that she was obviously trying to have a bitch behind my back about something that I think she could’ve addressed very differently but to that I replied “it does have straps” and then she tried to cover up the reason as because she has big breasts and is bigger than the rest of my bridesmaids and that she doesn’t think the dress would flatter her and to that I replied my MOH has huge bonkers, but the bust area is so feminine that it flatters that area and gives an illusion of a smaller waist (generally speaking, I KNOW this woman hates my guts! She is always rude the way she speaks to me and has even given my fiance an ultimatum to leave me at one stage. People have suggested to me that it may be because I’m 12 years younger than her and have someone, and she doesn’t. I thought by including her in the wedding that she would get over this grudge with me, but I feel like she is using any excuse to downgrade any decisions I have made for this wedding… dress, date of my hens night, even the date of our wedding was an issue to her… but that’s another story. I want peace but I cant seem to find tranquility around this woman. Everything is on tip-toes around her so she doesnt have another outburst to her brother of what a horrid person I am…. yeah okay…) she has come up with every excuse under the sun to why she cannot make it to try the dress, and then every time bails when she reschedules… I told my mum to take it to her house this weekend (the weekend before the wedding!) and that if she needs alterations now, she can get them organised herself!
Other close friend literally lives in the next suburb, has ignored every phone call, every text message, every facebook message for more than a month!… I begged her to come and try the dress and she finally came today (Praise the Lord!) But acted like it was such a chore that she had to come in and try the dress. She gave me dirty looks the whole day and was really rude and defensive when I asked her why she hasn’t spoken to me in over a month? Up until December, we were hanging out every second weekend… I’m really unsure what has made her so sour towards me? The whole reason why I paid for the bridesmaids dresses was because this girl is unemployed and I thought I cant buy one and not the rest it would be really mean… but now she hates me for no apparent reason?
Can somebody please explain to me why three girls have been so amazing about everything, but two seem to wish I dropped dead off the face of the Earth? I’ve really tried being nice, but now I feel played a bit…