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I am so sorry....
You will have to let her know privately that she is going to have to have the dress altered, if at all possible and/or lose some weight to fit or you are sorry, but she won't be able to be part of the wedding party.
Can you rush order another dress? Of course it would be her responsibility to pay...
Another dress is out of the question......she's broke (has already borrowed money from me).
I thought that maybe a seamstress could put a corset back to the dress....but then again they would probably get really pricey......
I don't get it....If I couldn't fit into a dress I would get my Asssss in gear!!!!
Would Spanx, or some other type of undergarment help enough for the dress to zip up?
@gc762......the zipper won't pull up at all - this is how small it is!!! She would have to put 5 pairs of Spanx on :o)
They didn't order the wrong size either (I checked)
Wow...she could always wear a shrug or cardigan to cover the open zipper...
I cant see how some one can gain so much weight in a short amount of time. Are you sure she tried it on when she picked it up to make sure it fit? maybe she ordered the wrong size or they measured her wrong.
Well we were BMs in our friends wedding - everyone used the same measurements for those dresses and then the dress they are wearing for my wedding. Everyone's fits BUT hers. For my friend's wedding they actually ordered her BMs dress way too big by accident, thats why it fit fine because they had to alter it down so much.
So, it sounds like she didn't gain so much weight recently but her measurements were not done recently. This is clearly her/your fault but not irreversable. Take the dress to a good independent seamstress and let them suggest the best alternative. I was in a wedding where we ordered the dresses almost 2 years in advance and in the end, the bride'S sister and MOH gained 4 sizes in that time due to quitting smoking. She took it to a seamstress who was able to work some sort of magic and the bride never knew. If the dresses are long you may have a better chance because there is generally some sort of excess hem that can be played with. If not, maybe ther's a possibility to order extra material which can be added to the dress. Losing weight may seem like the easy solution but likely it is not so. Best of luck, it'S not an easy topic to approach. Also, will you have a head table? Another bridesmaid in the same wedding unzipped her dress so she could comfortable sit through dinner and no one knew except for me who sat next to her because the head table backed the wall. She wore the BM dress for most of the evening and then changed into a better fitting dress for dancing.
My only comment is that while I understand you're worried about the wedding, please have a bit of sympathy for your bridesmaid. This is probably very embarrassing for her, especially since so much attention is being drawn to her weight gain. I know you're worried about the wedding, but remember that this girl is also your friend and please be kind. I'm sure a seamstress can find a way to solve the problem.
@Encore.....I am trying! I re-read my post and it sounds kind of bitchy....BUT this particular girl has been causing a little extra stress on me and this just topped it off.
@Slicey19.....We aren't having a typical head table - we are doing a round table so something like that may be a little obvious.
I completely agree with Encore. I was in my SIL's wedding in February and gained a lot of weight right before. Even though I knew I'd have to wear that dress, it didn't really change my eating habits. If "you all have noticed it" do you also think that she has noticed it as well and is feeling very embarrassed? Do you think she doesn't realize that she'll need to fit into this dress?
The way I see it, you have three options. Get a new dress of the same style (help her with the cost, or see if they will exchange it, or buy an off-the-rack dress), get a corset back put in, or panels along the sides, OR get a new dress in a different style. All of the options are going to be pricey, but at least if you get a new dress in a different size (rather than get strange alterations done), she is more likely to get good resale value.
If she has shown interest in losing weight, maybe offer to start exercising with her, or help her be healthier.
I actually really believe this is her problem to solve, and not yours. Bridesmaids are responsible for ordering and fitting into their own dress. In my bro's wedding one of the bridesmaids decided to just order her street size without being measured and it was much too small, of course. She took it to a seamstress and had panels added on either side to make it fit, she did this all on her own without mentioning it to the bride.. because it's NOT the bride's fault. Your bridesmaid has three options: 1. Work with a seamstress to make the dress fit 2. Lose weight to make the dress fit 3. Not stand up at the wedding. I understand that it's a sensitive subject because of her weight but she made the decisions that led to the dress not fitting and she seems to have no interest in rectifying the situation and that's not cool in my opinion.
Maybe suggest to her to see if a seamstress can change out the zipper for a corset back. And find some fabric that matches kind of close for the privacy panel and laces.
@ sboston06: Unfortunately I will NOT be helping her with the cost of a new dress. I am paying for this entire wedding on my own (and FI) and we are not in a position to be paying for people's "mistakes". We recently loaned her money 2 weeks ago and I am already regretting that because she cries poverty and then goes out and blows her money on booze and eating out all the time. (Sorry that this is big and bold - I don't know what happened)
I cannot workout with her - she lives about 10 hours away.
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So one of my bridesmaids (who is on the heavier side) does NOT fit in her dress......
It will not zip up....at all. The wedding is less than 2 months away....WTF?!?!?! She has gained weight since the dresses were ordered (She denies it but we have all noticed it). And she is making NO effort to less any weight to fit in the dress.....She needs to stop eating out all the time and boozing it up with the beer!!!
Seriously....what is a bride to do?!?!?!