Post # 1
Hey Ladies! I’m trying to get some opinions… I’ve tried to be easy going with my BMs dresses, as long as they’re the same blue I don’t care about style/length. My Maid/Matron of Honor insists on being a different blue and even that I’m saying fine to. Apparently now though my Fiance’s SIL (one of my BMs) is complaining to my Fiance that its going to look terrible with two girls in long and two in short. I’d heard some grumblings before from my mother but when she saw other photos of how it looked she settled down.
I don’t want to look back on my photos and regret letting everyone pick their own, but I know my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) will refuse to be in the wedding if its not a long dress but I don’t want to make everyone else wear a long dress. Everyone is mixed body types, short and thin, tall and thin, tall and curvy, average and curvy… I don’t know how I’d pick something that everyone would look good in and be HAPPY in.
My sister requires to be in the wedding: Long Dress that has structure to hide: Upper Arms, Knees, Ankles and cameflouges her hips. Any dress I pick for her will become cumbersome for the others. I know she could be different being the Maid/Matron of Honor but then what to do about the Future Sister-In-Law who wants long too? I think forcing her into a short dress would be a bit spiteful, I don’t think she knows Fiance told me what she thinks.
I’ve also sent an email to our photographer to find out what he thinks of how the photos will turn out…
Post # 3
i think mismatched legnths is fine. Your wedding pictures will look funny and dated 20 years from now no matter what you do. That’s part of the fun of them; don’t you remember looking at your parent’s old wedding pictures?
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
As long as they have something in common, they will look fine. make sure they are the same material (satin, chiffon, etc) and color.
Post # 5
Hi Ladies, thanks for the opinions… what if they’re in whatever material? Would that make it worse? Should I get them to all pick the same material? They were debating between Satin and Chiffon but oddly enough the ones more against Satin ended up really loving satin dresses… O.o
Post # 6
If you find a nice a-line it will compliment all body types. I also have to warn you that not everyone is good a chosing dresses that look well on them. I am dealing with the issue of mixed body types sizes ranging from 20s to 5s and heights from 5’10” to 5’2″ busty to no bust at all. I too was going for a” choose your own” option until I realized that was leading to people choosing a dress without any regard to what everyone else was wearing or the style of my wedding etc. I ended up changing to a rainbow wedding anyway, with everyone in a different color and it was a perfect time to tell them they needed to wear the same style dress. I gave two variations on the skirt and all ended up choosing the same 1st pic and LOVING the dress on thier body… both are corset backs and give amazing support and control, creating curves when once they were hidden and pulling in what wants to hang out.
This was the second option
you can always put your Sister in a shawl or bolero if arms are an issue. Honestly the Maid/Matron of Honor is often different from the other girls so a different color or even a different dress in a different color would still be ok. However, a lot of the the pics you see of mix matched dresses do not have different lengths. Just browse pinterest… I went with long because I felt my sleeker girls could go a day without showing off their legs for the sake of the others who really needed to feel equally pretty for a change.
ETA that that last point is a biggie. Something all brides should consider. If you’ve always been slim or had a decent average body it may not occur to you that your bridesmaids are extremely aware of who they are literally standing up against. The beauty queen (s) can make some sacrifices for the girl or girls who struggle with thier appearence In My Humble Opinion. I have been in both places.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
When I originally told my ladies “pick whatever dress you want” I meant literally whichever one they wanted. Later on I added that I wanted it to be short (knee length) and the flowy material.
Three of my bridesmaids chose the same dress. I am making sure that is okay with the fourth one (but if it’s not, that’s fine because she’s the Maid/Matron of Honor and can go a different direction). It turns out that even though they have differing body types/shapes they still look lovely in the same dress.
here are two of my bridesmaids:
Post # 8
@missmorganista: Nice choice! Sweetheart necklines are fabulous!
Post # 9
As long as they are the same colors and type of material. You will be fine. My.girls had different dresses
Post # 10
Why not put all your BMs in a long dress? Are any of the girls refusing to be in your wedding if it’s not a short dress? If not then just go with long for all of them. There are plenty of long styles that will suit every body type, so you wouldn’t have to worry about that. I think length is one of the important aspects that needs to be consistent for cohesion, it’s one thing for the Maid/Matron of Honor to be the only one in a different length, but the rest of the girls should be in the same length, material and colour for a proper cohesive look.
Post # 11
I’m doing mismatched dresses for my bridesmaids. I chose the color, material and told my bridesmaids to get a cocktail length. I am letting my Maid/Matron of Honor choose whether she wants a gown or cocktail length because I know she’s self conscious about her legs. I think as long as they’re wearing the same color and material it will look fine.
Post # 12
I have mismatched girls as well, and we’re doing 2 short, 2 long (all the same fabric and color). The top pick for short dresses is the same as missmorganista
Post # 13
Here’s an image I found online (on Martha Stewart Weddings) of some mismatched dresses, where the colors, necklines, and lengths aren’t the same, and I think it still looks great!
Post # 14
i personally prefer same fabric, colour and length and thats what i said to my BMs – saphire blue, chiffon and long. From dessy, that still gave them a lot of styles to choose from
Sometimes i think different lengths can be distracting in the photos, but if you do it i prefer say…2 of each. 3 long and one short isnt my fave look
upper arms can be hidden with a bolero
Post # 15
I was actually in the exact same situation as you–first I wanted all short yellow chiffon dresses , whichever ones they wanted from anywhere. But then SIL was self conscious and had to have a long dress. I sympathized and said yes, but since I didn’t want her to end up looking like the Maid/Matron of Honor being the only one in a long dress, I asked my actual Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) to please get a long dress too. All of my bm’s ended up in David’s bridal dresses (all chosen by them) but my Maid/Matron of Honor got hers from somewhere else so it was a slightly brighter shade than everyone else’s. To recap, I had 2 bm in short dresses, 1 bm in a long dress and my Maid/Matron of Honor in a long brighter shade dress. Sounds chaotic and honestly stressed about it a bit before the big day. But the day of, I didn’t even notice the differences (and as the bride, I would obviously be the one who cared the most about it), I just saw that my girls all looked beautiful and comfortable–as for the guests, all they saw was that the bridal party was dressed in our wedding colors so it was still traditional and gorgeous. 🙂
Post # 16
I was in the same situation as you as well. I knew I wanted them all to be the same length and fabric and color but I wanted the Maid/Matron of Honor to have a different dress from the BMs so she can stand out. I ended up picking this but even now I just love the MOH’s dress and really don’t care 2 much for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, it was just the most complimenting dress to the Maid/Matron of Honor dress. Even now I’m thinking about having the girls be in all the same dresses and just have the Maid/Matron of Honor be in a DB guava color and the BMs in a DB coral color (they’re only one shade off). And for the record, most of my BMs (4 out of 6) are plus size.
Maid/Matron of Honor dress:
Bridesmaid or Best Man dress: