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I don't think you're being a bridezilla. That sounds frustrating, especially since you really like that dress. Are they able to go into a shop to try on the dress? Maybe it won't show off their "arm fat" like they think it will.
@Meealissa: It's not even the fact that she doesn't care for the dress I picked. I really do want all of them to be happy in their dresses. The part that makes me upset is that the 3 of them talked about this together and decided on a style dress that they want, and did not include the other 3 BMs (one of which is my Maid of Honor!) and they did not include me! I don't know, I guess I just wouldn't do something like that.
@BridalBlondie: Oh yeah, I forgot to include a response to that part in my post. I would be upset/annoyed by that, too. I mean, I wouldn't go on a rampage or anything (not saying you are) and would have to eventually let it slide, but it is rather irksome. It's like a mini-conspiracy! :)
I voted that you definitely have a right to be upset about this situation.
I do want to say, though, that with 6 girls, the odds that every single one will be happy with one dress is probably slim. If you want them all in the exact same dress you have to be willing to make the executive decision as the bride and deal with some of them not "loving it".
Hope that helps!
Can you take them all shopping? That way they can start to get to know each other and they call all agree (or at least most of them can agree) on a dress.
I would feel hurt too if my bridal party starting talking about the wedding and only filled me in on their decisions after (and their decision essentially vetoed an idea I was excited about).
The only way to have 6 happy bridesmaids is to pick a color and let them pick the style they want/feel comfortable in. Meaning each girl could possibly have a different dress. If you are not ok with that then you just have to put your foot down and pick the dress you love!
Thanks everyone! We are supposed to go dress shopping this summer. I came across the dress by accident, and figured I would send it to them as a suggestion. And you all are right, making 6 BMs happy will be impossible!
I agree with vmec. 6 girls are never going to LOVE the same dress. They can wear halters at their wedding. Too bad so sad.
I don't think you're being a bridezilla, but I do think its important to take your BM's feelings into account re: the dress. I don't think they were right to formulate a plan for the dress without discussing it without you, though. I'm sure they didn't mean anything by it, and it was just casual discussion amongst themselves. You say that you aren't going shopping for dresses until this summer, so maybe these girls thought they had plenty of time to bring this up with you, or discuss it with the other bridesmaids.
Keep this in mind. My sister's prom dress was strapless (she's got no boobs to hold it up) but she is super short so my mom had the seamstress keep the material she cut from the dress to create a halter strap. You could use the dress you like, and let the 3 girls who want halter pay to get a halter strap added. If your girls aren't short, you might need to order extra fabric but its definitely possible if the dress is strapless. Without seeing the dress, its hard to say whether this would work, but I think it would be a good compromise.
I agree with vmec. 6 girls are never going to LOVE the same dress. They can wear halters at their wedding. Too bad so sad.
I say other. I understand where you're coming from. I'm sure the three friends talked about it amongst themselves. I don't think they meant to leave you out of it. That was probably just the best time to tell you what they were thinking. I would be mad if they were set in stone about it though. And if they decided not to even consider the other three. I don't think you're a bridezilla at all :)
I say other. I realize its frustrating but like PP's said if you want to please them all-let them pick the stlye. Seriously, its the only thing that works when you have that many girls!
It's your wedding and IMO, ultimately the choice is ours, not theirs. Not to say that you can't take their wishes into consideration. I gave my BMs and MOHs two choices. That was it.
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I have 6 BMs: Of these, 3 of the BMs are my best friends, and the other 3 are family members. Of the 3 family members, the MOH is my sister. We have all been tossing around ideas for dresses, but nothing was set in stone. As I was looking online, I found the most perfect dress. The color is perfect, the cut is perfect, and it even has jewels that match the detail on my dress. I sent an e-mail to all my BMs to show it to them as a suggestion. My sister (MOH) immediately sent me a message saying she loved it. BM #1 e-mailed me to say that she liked it, but her and the other girls agreed that they wanted to wear a halter style dress so they could hide their "arm fat." This was news to me, because we had never discussed this. When I asked her if "all" the bridesmaids agreed on this, she said her and the other two felt it best to get halter dresses. I e-mailed her back and said that we had 3 other's opinions to consider, and reminding her that everyone has to be happy with the dress not just half the group. Am I wrong to feel a little irritated by this? I am just a little confused as to why I am the last to know about the bridesmaids dress plan...and I am the bride! Am I being a bridezilla here?