(Closed) Bridesmaids Dresses: Am I being a Zilla? Opinions needed!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Am I being a Bridezilla?
    Yes, you are definitely acting like a bridezilla! : (4 votes)
    11 %
    No, you have every right to feel upset about the situation. : (24 votes)
    69 %
    Other - explain below : (7 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla.  That sounds frustrating, especially since you really like that dress.  Are they able to go into a shop to try on the dress?  Maybe it won’t show off their “arm fat” like they think it will.

    Post # 5
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @BridalBlondie: Oh yeah, I forgot to include a response to that part in my post.  I would be upset/annoyed by that, too.  I mean, I wouldn’t go on a rampage or anything (not saying you are) and would have to eventually let it slide, but it is rather irksome.  It’s like a  mini-conspiracy! 🙂

    Post # 6
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted that you definitely have a right to be upset about this situation.

    I do want to say, though, that with 6 girls, the odds that every single one will be happy with one dress is probably slim. If you want them all in the exact same dress you have to be willing to make the executive decision as the bride and deal with some of them not “loving it”.

    Hope that helps!

    Post # 7
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    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Can you take them all shopping? That way they can start to get to know each other and they call all agree (or at least most of them can agree) on a dress.

    I would feel hurt too if my bridal party starting talking about the wedding and only filled me in on their decisions after (and their decision essentially vetoed an idea I was excited about).

    Post # 8
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    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    The only way to have 6 happy bridesmaids is to pick a color and let them pick the style they want/feel comfortable in.  Meaning each girl could possibly have a different dress.  If you are not ok with that then you just have to put your foot down and pick the dress you love! 

    Post # 10
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I highly doubt you will appease ALL of them. Just say I’m sorry BUT.

    Post # 11
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I agree with vmec.  6 girls are never going to LOVE the same dress. They can wear halters at their wedding. Too bad so sad. 

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla, but I do think its important to take your BM’s feelings into account re: the dress. I don’t think they were right to formulate a plan for the dress without discussing it without you, though. I’m sure they didn’t mean anything by it, and it was just casual discussion amongst themselves. You say that you aren’t going shopping for dresses until this summer, so maybe these girls thought they had plenty of time to bring this up with you, or discuss it with the other bridesmaids. 

    Keep this in mind. My sister’s prom dress was strapless (she’s got no boobs to hold it up) but she is super short so my mom had the seamstress keep the material she cut from the dress to create a halter strap. You could use the dress you like, and let the 3 girls who want halter pay to get a halter strap added. If your girls aren’t short, you might need to order extra fabric but its definitely possible if the dress is strapless. Without seeing the dress, its hard to say whether this would work, but I think it would be a good compromise. 

    Post # 11
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I agree with vmec.  6 girls are never going to LOVE the same dress. They can wear halters at their wedding. Too bad so sad. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I say other. I understand where you’re coming from. I’m sure the three friends talked about it amongst themselves. I don’t think they meant to leave you out of it. That was probably just the best time to tell you what they were thinking. I would be mad if they were set in stone about it though. And if they decided not to even consider the other three. I don’t think you’re a bridezilla at all 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee

    I say other. I realize its frustrating but like PP’s said if you want to please them all-let them pick the stlye. Seriously, its the only thing that works when you have that many girls!

    Post # 14
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Halters to disguise arm fat? I think it accentuates it…

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