(Closed) bridesmaids dresses and church issues

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t know how close you are to your BM’s but I would just flat out tell them. It doesn’t seem like rocket science that certain dresses are inappropriate for a Baptist wedding. If they give you any issues just tell them the church doesn’t allow it.

Post # 4
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree that I’d be pretty firm. It’s kind of you to value what they want, but if what they want doesn’t work in the context of your wedding, you’re allowed to say “no.” We had a semi-formal wedding with a church ceremony, and that was definitely a consideration when choosing the girls’ dresses.

Unfortunately, shawls and boleros only are only really effective at covering up shoulders; not so much cleavage or lots of leg. 🙂 I’m sure you can find a way to compromise! There are some really pretty dresses out there that are perfectly appropriate for church.

Because, really — your wedding isn’t a dance club. And that’s okay. 🙂

Post # 5
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You have the ultimate say in what they wear- offer to let them change into “reception” dresses

Post # 8
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Knee-length, as in, practically to the knee? Seems like that should be okay. Maybe if you give them the length they want (as long as it’s appropriate), you can be a little more conservative up top as a compromise?

If you allowed them “reception dresses,” would they all have to have one? It’s a good idea, I just worry about the cost of two dresses…

Post # 9
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think that some sort of cover up to preserve modesty during the ceremony is a perfectly nice compromise. I would be straight up with them about it.

Post # 10
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Id just straight out tell them. ‘Due to our wedding being in a church and the fact that hubby and myself are very ‘traditional’, we’d feel more comfortable if certain areas of the body were covered’ or something along those lines. I mean it is a wedding in a church. Its not like ur getting hitched at the club.

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