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I'm trying to decide whether i should have different styles, or all the same dress. If i do different styles, should i stick to either all strapless, or all with straps?
For context i have 7 bridesmaids who range in size from a 0 to a size 22, and ages 13-26, and all different heights, so i'm leaning towards different styles but dont want it to look "messy".
IF YOU HAVE PICTURES OF YOUR BRIDAL PARTY IN DIFFERENT STYLE DRESSES- PLEASE POST!
thank you!
I like the look of each bridesmaid wearing different styled dresses, as long as they're the same length. Having a mix of tea-length, short, and long dresses in the same party always looks off to me.
As far as my BMs, I think I'll give them a color and length and let them choose the style they like best. My size 0 sister and size 12 cousin aren't going to agree on the same dress, so this is probably the easiest approach for me! Plus, I plan on spending a day with each BM to shop for their dresses, including lunch on me, so we can have some one-on-one time.
For the longest time I was pro-different styles but since planning my own wedding, I want all of the girls to be in the same dress. I like the uniform look. With that said, I would never ask my girls to wear a dress that they didnt feel comfortable in so if it comes down to them seriously disagreeing about it then I'll probably give in and let them choose their own styles (as long as they are the same color, fabric and length). I personally dont like the look of bridesmaids in all different lengths.
As of right now, this is my top contender for their dresses...
The color looks kind of pinkish in the picture, but its actually burnt orange. I wanted a dress that would fit with our fall theme and so far this has been the only one that I've been drawn to.
ETA: I don't think any of my girls would be comfortable wearing strapless so they will have the option to add whatever kind of straps they like.
I don't have any pics, but my girls are all having straps. Two are having halters (one is a "traditional" halter, the other is basically strapless, but has a thin strap at the center of the bust that goes around the neck) and one is having a one-strap. All dresses are the same material and color, and basically the same length (short). They will also all have matching ribbons tied around their waists. I couldn't possibly ask them to wear the same dress--they all have such different body types, and I wanted their personalities reflected in what they were wearing. I did not require that they all have straps, though, it just kinda happened like that.
I selected different but with consistency in straps or strapless, but I actually don't care about straps or not. I feel that consistency in length and formality are important. But really, anything goes these days. Do whatever works best for you and your girls.
All my girls wore different dresses; however, all the dresses turned out to be strapless. I was happy either way.
Here are mine...2 girls had the same dress and other 2 had the same ones.
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I have 3 girls all wearing J Crew dresses in hazel blue. 2 are wearing the dress with straps & 1 is wearing the strapless dress
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@MissJay: What style is that dress? Love it!
These weren't my girls, but I love the photo so thought I would share :)
I am not getting married, but I did find a few pics of "non matching" bridesmaids dresses on google. As a bridesmaid, I know it is really nice to be able to pick your own style within limits (my sister said she wanted a certain color and material, and the dress to be knee length). We all got to pick what suited our bodies (we ranged from about 5'0 and 100 lb to 5'10" about 200 lb or so) and that we will wear again. Since the wedding hasn't happened, I don't have pictures, but just googling "non-matching bridesmaids dresses" will turn up a lot of results. Plus, if your bridesmaids feel comfortable they can spend more time focusing on the important thing of the day-- YOU!!
I would keep in my the formality of your wedding though-- I am in another VERY formal wedding and we are all matching. In that case the bride picked a dress with straps that was floor length so that no dresses would be falling down or having the really big busted girls "pop out."
Good luck choosing! Remember, all eyes will probably be on you anyway :-)
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I think as long as they're all the same fabric and all in the same color, color family, or complimentary colors, than you can do pretty much any style. I picked a color and a fabric, and my 4 BMS chose different dresses--two were strapless and two had straps
I had orgignally wanted to do same fabric, no pattern and knee length, I thought it would look cute. We ended up finding all my dresses off the rack though, all in stick for 99.00...couldnt pass that up. PLUS the girls picked them out :) not me ... so i knew they liked them and would wear them again. :)
thanks! i love all these pictures! i'mleaning towards having them do whatever (same fabric and color,but style up to them) but i think i want to have some sort of part in the decision just to make sure its not really wild.
We didn't do matching anything for our wedding party. The women were told to choose purple (bridesmaids) or grey/silver (groomswoman) approximately knee-length dresses, and the men were told to purchase grey suits. I realize this strategy isn't for everyone, but I love the way it turned out.
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Here are mine! Dresses from BCBG, Nordstroms, and one other store I can't remember...
Here are mine! Dresses from BCBG, Nordstroms, and one other store I can't remember...
i think they look better if they're the same colour and roughly same style. Doesn't matter if some are strapless and others aren't. From the pics above, I like the green and pale orange dresses but i thinkj the white/cream coloured ones look tacky.
@flamingred...I love the way your bridal party looks! We're doing the same thing - one color and let them choose. I want them to enjoy what they're wearing and feel great.
One question though - should I just pick a color swatch to give to each of them and let them go for whatever they want, or should I choose a color and a designer and let them choose the style.
We were going to go with Bari Jay dresses in turquoise. But I finally got the swatch and it's just too dark/bright.....and I don't think it looks good with my dress. I think we need a more muted aqua/tiffany blue/pool color.
@TerraWellness: I don't know if you were specifically asking me for what I did, but I just let everyone get whatever they wanted. I went shopping with each of them and helped pick the dress, but for the most part they had free reign on shade of red, length,designer and all of that. My guests LOVED how it looked at the ceremony.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where we all wore different dresses in the same length and fabric. The MOH's dress had an overlay that made it look a little lighter and set her apart from the BMs. I think they all looked great together and I loved it because I got to wear straps. Strapless is really hard for me:
personall
y,I think the bridmaid shoule wear the same clothes.If the dresses are all different.maybe it is a little difficult to say who is bride and who is bridmaid,hah.A joke!
I love the look of different style dresses, so I gave them the option to pick their own dress that were the same length, fabric, and color. And, with my luck, they all ended up choosing the same dress! I'm thrilled with their choice because this was my personal favorite from the choices, but I love the look of mismatched dresses too! Here is the dress they all happened to choose:
I'm having the same dilemma! Everyone is a different size, and I want them to be comfortable. My wedding is next October, which I love the chocolate brown for the girls..I was thinking of putting my MOHs in either a gold, champagne or a taupe. Decisions decisions! My dress is ivory, so I don't want a contrast between them. Help!!
@Baileyh: Where did they get their dresses from?? Like the styles but for our wedding we are going with dark brown and orange for flowers!!
I chose a color from Davids Bridal and my girls could get any dress they wanted. My only stipulation was that they got something that they loved!
They all ended up choosing dresses that go very well together and I can't wait to see them all in their dresses! I don't have any pics yet, unfortunately.
I already posted this pic on a thread earlier today, but I am letting my girls pick whatever they want. My only wish is that it be knee length and in the light pink color family :D
I am letting my girls pick their own dresses, and their own styles. The only thing I have them was a fabric swatch that matched my shoes, and I told them it would be nice to have them related to that colour. I told them around knee length, but I don't really care otherwise. I figured they're all so different in style and size, and this way hopefully they'll love their dress enough they'll wear it again!
I told them they could all have different dresses, colors, lengths, whatever. When we actually went out shopping, it turned out that the same dress worked best for everyone! Such is life. :)
i was in 2 weddings as a BM where we had different styles and that is why for my wedding i decided to go with different styles. As a BM, i loved being able to pick my own dress. everyone has different body types, so i would find it incredibly stressful to find a dress that looks good on my six BMs. AND from the 2 weddings i was in, i realized what looked amazing what the solid color with the white dress in the middle.
the one thing i think would be best is consistency in knee versus ankle length. however even for my wedding, my 5 BMs are getting knee length and my MOH will likely get ankle length - but i figure thats ok since as the MOH, her dress should stand out.
here the 2 pics i was talking about
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dont know why the other pic didn't upload? or actually, maybe because it was the pro pic from my sisters wedding? i think there are copyrights on them? i will try one i took with my own camera!
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My bridesmaids are all wearing different Alfred Sung dresses. Here are the different dresses, but my girls are all different shapes and sizes. 
My bridesmaids are all wearing the same dress except for my maid of honor.
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@asdf: My girls are wearing the same dresses but in Pistachio. I absolutely love that line!
I am only having one attendant (my daughter so she if she is maidzilla I can ground her lol) but from looking at a billion pictures it looks much fresher if the bridesmaids are not matchy matchy. I think the all matching bridesmaid look is very 1980s :)
my girls are wearing convertible dresses so they'll be different style, but they will be the same fabric, colour and length. I think you at least to have one element of consistency... whether it be colour, straps on/off, fabric, length... there just needs to be something that's the same between them.
My sister-in-law had these dresses for us for her wedding. Just watch the colour you pick. The sample was in brown and it looked gordeous. But... she chose coral with a buttercup yellow sash thing under the bust. It was awful.
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