Post # 1
So i’ve been getting conflicting advice in regards to my bridesmaids dress.
I am having long black dresses with some customised diamante/beading.
My mother has been insisting that the bridesmaids should buy their own dresses, and that is why you buy them a gift.
But am hearing from other brides that they purchased their bridesmaids dresses.
Just wondered what some fellow brides opinions were on this.
Post # 3
It is customary for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses. If you can afford to pay for them, that’s great, but you should not feel obligated to do so. HOWEVER, it is your responsibility to make sure that the dresses you are choosing are within your bridesmaids’ budgets. Also, I believe the girls should have SOME say in the dress to make sure they are comfortable, but other don’t feel that way which is fine. Either way, customized beading sounds quite expensive. If the price is really high on the dresses I think you need to at least subsidize the cost for your girls.
Post # 4
My MOH’s bought their own dresses and shoes!! Most BM’s buy their own dresses unless you can afford them!! We were lucky, because we found the dresses on clearance at Dillards!!
Post # 5
Part of a girl accepting the offer to be a bridesmaid is the understanding that she’s financially responsible for the dress, the pre-wedding events, etc.
I applaud and am jealous of girls who can afford to buy their BMs’ dresses. I can’t. But we’re going to find an affordable dress, and I’ll be buying them gifts and jewelry.
Post # 6
It is common for the bridesmaids to pay for the dress, and as a bridesmaid, I would expect to do that. However, if you are planning on getting them giifts approx. equal to the cost of the dress, I’d much rather have the bride pay for my dress than get me some gift that wouldn’t necessarily be what I would have bought for myself. I think buying the dress in lieu of a gift is a great idea if you can afford it, and I am sure your BMs would prefer this option.
Post # 7
You don’t have to pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, but personally I think it’s a really nice thing to do if you can. I have been a bridesmaid 6 times and I have never once reworn a dress, even though they have all actually been very pretty and were chosen with care. The gifts I have received as a bridesmaid have almost always been some kind of jewelry meant to complement the dress–again, I’m ashamed to admit I’ve never worn any of this jewelry again, either.
My point is not to complain about the dresses I’ve worn, because they’ve all been beautiful and perfectly appropriate for their events. My point is that, if possible, I think it’s a wonderful thing to do to pay for or subsidize the dresses, and this may even be appreciated more than a gift.