- 3 weeks ago
- Wedding: May 2018
Ive got a large bridal party and unfortunately, dealing with about half being difficult and more concerned about themselves then the wedding…ive been very consumed with trying not to ask to much, financially or timewise of my girls; so feel extra frustrated when they are difficult. The look i am going for is very specific and is also very different from each of my girls personal style (ive always been the unique one). SO in order to not have to compromise on the look; while not asking to much of my girls, i have personally spent an insane amount of hours running around finding things on sale so that at least if it is not their persoanl style, the cost isnt high….
Dresses are rustic Boho, with short white, lacy/flowy completely different dresses. Dresses have been selected and assigned and are each $100 or less and it was not an easy feat getting 6 different dresses that fit the style, worked for body types and worked together..ended p having to just pick the styles and assign to the girls.
I am now moving into the shoe dilemma. I originally thought i would just tell them to wear their own nude shoes in any style and be done with it. However, one girl has pointed out that with a) the difficulties ive been experiencing so far with the girls, they may pick something that really doesnt go and b) with the dresses being short and white, the shoes are going to stand out way more than usual with bridesmaids (usually the dresses being a color means that a nude shoe is hardly noticeable) and c) with the completely mismatched dresses, having a matching shoe would bring everything together. (Side note – groomsmen will all be in matching dress shoes…groom is purchasing their shoes and belt as their gift..but thats easy since they will wear again…i will be buying my girls matching robes and a really nice bracelet in a style that all will wear in every day life)
I went ahead and ordered 6 different sytles of shoes (fully refundable, heels are block and between 2″ and 3″ no higher …I will be barefoot and some girls arent comfortable in high heels) in 2 sizes for each bridesmaid. Going to have them try them on and pick the one style that seems to fit all the best. No style is more than $50 (meaning each bridesmaid will spend between $100-$150 including tax AND dress). Only expecting matching shoes to be worn for formal photos and ceremony and then they can change into any neutral (nude, beige, tan, light brown, champagne etc) shoe in any style of their choice if they want!
Anyone who has been in a bridal party before…. how would you feel about this? Would you think this is fair, or asking too much?
For hair – I am giving girls the option of professional or DIY and will give them some inspiration photos, but really all i am asking is that they dont do anything TOO formal (crazy sleek updo) as it is a more casual vibe. Will be providing them little hair pieces to incorporate into the style of choice. Really dont care..up, down, sideways.
Would really like them to have makeup professionaly done (paying a fortune for photos and my photographer has mentioned that especially in the outdoor light if the right products arent used, it may be noticeable)…once again, those who have been in bridal parties…if you were only spending 150 on dress/shoes, would being asked to spend another 60 on makeup be unreasonable?
Sorry for long post! Just running into so many issues with them and having not been in many myself, it is hard for me to have an unbiased opinion!