Post # 1
Hello bees, need your opinion about giving gift to bridesmaids!
So here is our situation… I am renting my wedding dress and it comes with the bridesmaids dress, so I am basically providing the dress even though they are not going to own it afterwards. And I am paying for their hair and make up as well (even though it is really not that much because we are asking our friend’s mother to do it – she used to own a salon so she can be considered professional. Shoes I do not provide.
As for bachelorette parties or shower, I am not sure if they are going to plan it for me. My Maid/Matron of Honor just very recently moved to another state and has a 1 year old, so I don’t think she will be involved a lot in it. One of my bridesmaids is getting married herself in 6 months, so I’m not sure either if she has a bandwith to do it. My other bridesmaids is my Future Sister-In-Law, she is still in college and most likely has no clue whatsoever what bridesmaids are supposed to do, etc.
With that being said, should I still buy them gifts?? Thanks bees!! Your input will be very much appreciated…
Post # 3
I was my sister’s only bridesmaid & she didn’t get me a gift. I didn’t think anything of it, since all I had to do is buy a dress of my own choosing & show up.
If you can swing it, I think it’s a nice gesture. Maybe you could give them something small like a nice box of chocolates or a bottle of wine, but I don’t think it’s required.
Post # 4
I would definitely get them something as a thank you for standing up with you on your wedding. Pre-wedding parties are gifts that your BMs (or other people) give you and are not required. Therefore you shouldn’t base whether or not you get your BMs gifts on what kind of parties they do or do not throw. Also, I don’t think you can count paying for their hair and make-up or providing dresses as gifts since those are things for YOUR wedding.
Post # 5
yes – BUT – it doesn’t need to be expensive or extravagant – write them a thoughtful thank you note and maybe a framed print of you with them or a pretty potted plant. I got a pair of those REALLY soft slipper socks once along with a pair of earrings and a manicure. Loved it all.
Post # 6
I would say get them something small…a nice thank you and a candle or something from bath and body works, or a $10 gift card…it doesn’t need to be fancy just something to show you appreciate all that they have done!
Post # 7
I think some type of gift is pretty much mandatory. That being said, you can definitely decide how big of one given both your budget and what they have contributed towards your wedding planning (not financially, but just time/effort wise)
Post # 8
@mandypop: that sounds great! I think the jewelry idea sounds great as it is something that they can wear later on.
Thank you all for your suggestion!!
Post # 9
I think it depends on your budget. Also, I love that you’re able to rent a dress, that’s amazing (I’m assuming that it’s very cost-effective).
100% make sure to write a personal note of thanks and consider including something small.
If you’re into cooking or baking or something, you could give them a little gift certificate for “one homemade cheese cake with flavour of your choosing” or “one fancy dinner at my place” etc, to be cost effective and more as a value the friendship type gift.