Post # 1
I’m trying to think about what to get my bridesmaids (I have 4). I would like to buy them their dress (I feel like if I’m forcing them into a style and colour they normally wouldn’t pick, I should pay for it). I also want to take them for a mani/pedi the day before the wedding. If they want their hair and makeup done, it’s up to them to pay for. Do you think that’s reasonable?
All that being said, if I buy their dresses, I feel I need to get them a little gift to present to them at the rehersal. I don’t want to spend a lot of money and need ideas for something nice and tasteful, but not expensive. (My budget would under $50 each).
Some thoughts –
– custom bridesmaid dress hangers (off Esty)
– evening clutch (maybe custom off Esty) and have wedding “survival” stuff like lip blam etc. in it.
– Earrings (that they could wear the day of the wedding)
Any other ideas that are small and inexpensive that I can consider the “gift” seeing that the dress would be paid for by me?
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
Are they throwing you a shower? If so, I would get them something else. I like the clutch idea!
Post # 4
@missmovies: They are throwing a shower with my mom and aunt. And they are doing a bachelorette party for me.
So pay for the dress and give a nice clutch gift?
Post # 5
In my mind and ive read on here many times , a bridesmaid gift should not all have to do with the wedding. Its fine to give a smaller gift because they are not paying for the dress but its really a gift to you if you get them stuff that you want them to wear in your wedding. How about you include something that each girl individual ly would love? I would look at it like you are buying them a small birthday present as well as the other stuff. Show them how much they mean to you.
Post # 6
I think just buying them a clucth would be fine.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You should get them a gift with a purpose beyond the wedding. It’s not really a present if the purpose is to enhance your wedding or is of no value to the BM, so the hangers, for example, don’t really qualify as a gift. The clutch or the earrings are fine if you choose ones that these women would legitimately use in the future.
Post # 8
Getting a seperate gift does more for your maids. Even though buying everying + gifts seems a bit much I would say a delicate accessory would be perfect! Like a sweet bracelet or a solitair necklace. If you’re buying the dress, hangers, AND a gift it seems like you’re throwing a lot of stuff at them saying thank you for attending vs thank you for their help… but I don’t know how your maids have been helping you so I appoligize if they have been bending backwards to help put your wedding together :-/. It sort of seems inpersonal when they don’t buy their own dress but you stil shower them with gifts.
I’m buying my girls Ipads (gifted at the wedding), Robes (Gifted at the Bridal Photoshoot/Bachelorette Pre-Party number 1), and necklaces (Gifted at the shower). We had a VERY long engagement and my maids have done virtually ALL of the hard work pretaining to our wedding and most of them live 5+ hours away and have been excelent troopers attending our engagment parties, and taking charge of the planning they can do from afar. I’m be getting the customized hangers only because they’re buying their own and I’m ordering them all at once as a thank you for them buying the exspensive dress they will never wear again 🙂 Hope this helps!
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Post # 10
@skylar1224: I paid for all my bridesmaid dresses (6 of them) I also paid for the brooch accessory to go on the dresses. (I’n having a destination wedding so thought it was a nice gesture) I will be getting my MOH a gift of a necklace and earrings and I got all my other bridesmaids and MOH a beautiful custom thank you card that I had made from a vendor on Etsy
Post # 11
I like the clutch idea. They can use it outside of the wedding.
Post # 12
If I were a BM and you paid for everything wedding related, esp the dress, that’s enough of a ‘gift’ to me. Typically the BM pays or the dress themself. So it was money I was going to have to spend. If you bought it for me, you essentially saved me that by buying it for me. I would rather you buy my dress as the gift, than me buy the dress and then getting some bm gift I may or may not use.
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: I agree!
I’m am a very low maintenance person and never would be expecting a gift in the first place.