Post # 1
We want a casual wedding. We want it to feel more like a family bbq gathering where our loved ones witness us get married. No more than 50 people, but probably no less than 30 – it’s 2.5 hours away from home. So then, do we really need to have bridesmaids or groomsmen? Our wedding will be outdoors, rustic, DIY, in the beautiful state of Vermont under a pavilion with a beautiful mountain view. My FI and I each want a wedding party, and want matching attire and have them stand there with us (as an honor), but every time I go to plan or visualize that happening it seems to conflict with our idea of keeping things casual. I end up envisioning this formal wedding ceremony and just can’t get past that. Has anyone encountered this conflict? Basically, how do I keep things casual and still have a wedding party?
Post # 2
We had what I consider a casual wedding. It was on a ranch property that we rented for the whole weekend so it was one long party. Only 50 guests, mostly family. The only friends that were there were in our bridal party! We had 3 on each side. It was important to us that they stand up with us as they have supported and been a part of our relationship from the very beginning. Ours was also about 2 hours from home. It worked out great!
Post # 3
smshelley: Bridesmaids and groomsmen are not required for any wedding. Most governments and churches require a wirness or two to sign the papers, but they don’t have to be in the wedding party.
There is always a compromise. You could each have just one person stand with you, if a wedding party clashes with your vision.
You could also have more people, but keep their dresses and outfits casual- mismatched dresses, short dresses, khakis and shirtsleeves all say casual wedding.
Post # 4
Bridesmaids and groomsmen are perfectly acceptable to have in a casual wedding, same as not having them in a very formal wedding. If you want them, have them. If you don’t want them, that’s okay too.
Post # 5
Maybe you could each have one or two people stand with you as bridesmaids and groomsmen instead of a large wedding party. This way you would keep things pretty casual while also including people you want. This article recommends having one pair of attendants per 50 guests: [link removed per self promotion policy]