Post # 1
I am toying with the idea of letting my bridesmaids all pick out their own dresses with no direction other than green. I have attached an inspiration picture that I like to look at whenever I feel panicky about this decision. My other inspiration is from Sex and the City when Charlotte and Harry are getting married and Carrie, Samantha, and Miranda all wear whatever they wanted. I couldn’t find a picture of this.
Has anyone else given full discretion of dresses to their bridesmaids? How did it turn out? Should I have them let me have final say before they take the tags off the dresses? Help! 🙂
Post # 3
I think the effect is really cool, especially if you don’t have a set type of green in your palette, though having more than 2 girls will be necessary to make the kind of visual impact that’s in your inspiration pic. But If your ladies are up for it (my girls ended up deferring final dress choice to me even though I encouraged them to choose =P) then go for it! I think the look of different shades of a color are much more interesting in photos than everyone being matchy-matchy. Oh and we’re going to have matchy matchy looks in my wedding, so no offense intended there =)!
Post # 4
I think it’s an awesome idea!I don’t know if you’re very familiar with The Knot, but there was one wedding on there I always go back to because it was so cool and different. Her username is JBloom, and she had all her bridesmaids pick their own dresses. I think it made for very unique look, which I LOVE! Here’s a pic:
Post # 5
Oh wow I love the BLEND of colors! It’s SO ME! I hadn’t even considered telling the girls to buy all one shade…then again, my colors are real specific, so i know a fuscia color would end up in there and look outta place. If you have 5 maids at least, i think it looks really great!
Post # 6
I did it! I told them black, something they already owned if possible (that way they will have at least worn it previously, even if they never really do wear it again). They all wore black cocktail dresses, one of them one that she already owned, one wore my own black cocktail dress. It worked great for us, and we had a black tie optional event and it didn’t look haphazard at all! 🙂 Plus, I think that they appreciated the money they saved.
Post # 7
I’m not really having bridesmaids, I’m having more of a "house party," so they will be choosing their own dresses unless they decide amongst themselves to get the same one (I hope not, but some of them have mentioned it). I think it will look beautiful!
Post # 8
This is what I plan to do too, only with pink! I don’t care about the shade of pink, the length, the fabric…I think my party of 4 ladies will look beautiful! I love the greens too. So pretty.
Post # 9
I’m a control freak so I don’t think I could have just thrown a color out…at least not a color like green, and told them to find something they wanted. I think it’s easier to do with a color like brown or black. If you don’t mind the varying shades of green and you don’t mind releasing control, it’s possible you will have some great pictures like the ones above. Could you maybe select like 10 of your favorite dresses and let them pick their favorite from that if you are too concerned?
Post # 10
I gave them full control! I am getting married on the beach, so i said I want them all in white sundresses… BUT that I did not want a lot of cleavage or anything!! So I told them for it to be tasteful, but whatever they want! I don’t know how it will turn out! Since only 1 of my BMs is local (the other local one is preggo and wont be able to travel to Hawaii for the wedding w her newborn), the others are in Miami, Austria, and Texas, so I am just going to have to trust their judgment!
My thinking is that they all know me well enough to know my taste and what I would and wouldn’t like, so I trust that they will keep that in mind when planning for my big day. (They all understand that it’s about my taste, not theirs…)
Post # 11
My sister did and I loved the look so much I am going to do it too! The two girls with the poofey hair were 17 here;and my twin sis and I were 30 here so there was no way we were going to agree on the same dress
Post # 12
My sister did and I loved the look so much I am going to do it too! The two girls with the poofey hair were 17 here, and my twin sis and I were 30 here so there was no way we were going to agree on the same dress
Post # 13
I could really go either way, just depends on your personal preference and how casual (all different colors & styles) or formal (exact same color and style) you want your pictures and what you want the focus to be. Different dresses in different colors will add interest to the picture, but will also detract from you being the focal point if that’s your desire. If all the girls are in the same dress or same color, the repetition will help give the photos a more unified look and feel.
You might err on the side of caution though by giving them full reign if there are any shades, fabrics, or styles you do not like. Be sure to let them know what those are.
Post # 14
My colors are olive green, black & ivory and I couldn’t decide between black or green- so I’m doing both! One in black, one in green & one in green with a lace black overlay.
Post # 15
@poli2b: That is very pretty!
@flamingred: I know exactly what you mean about different bridesmaids having different tastes. All my bridesmaids are about the same age, but they have 4 totally different styles and 4 totally different body types, so I hope this decision aleviates a lot of stress for everyone. I’m glad I don’t have to do the whole bridal shop rigamarole…
Post # 16
I did it! And as someone who has now had all three BMs buy their dresses, here are my bits of feedback if you’re still on the fence about it. I’m not saying everyone will feel this way, but take it for what it’s worth:
1. It was really fun to see what each girl would pick for herself when given the freedom. It was one part of planning that I didn’t have to do, so it was like a little exciting suprrise, and a gift to my TO DO list.
2. I had visions of eclectic, mixed photos, but in the end, no one opted for a printed dress, and the dresses really really are quite different.
3. Each of them loves their dress. Like, really, loves it, and will wear it again.
4. It is part of an overarching motif of mixed purples and pinks all over, and the stress of making things match was alleviated–but it was replaced instead with minor worries about whether things are not quite the right mix.
5. It makes me feel like I will be able to look back on their pictures and see them being truly themselves. 10, 15 years from now, I will enjoy remembering their personal style and spirit and seeing it reflected in my wedding photos.
6. I don’t love all of their dresses. Just trying to be balanced in my feedback here!