Post # 1
i was planning on having 7girls (1 Maid/Matron of Honor, and 6BM’s) and possibly adding another girl to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, was trying to think if it’d be too many people,i’d really love her to be in it because she has been there for me but she’s one of those friends whom i don’t talk to every single day, but when i do, it’s like haven’t changed.. i’m not quite sure how my friend would feel if she wasn’t in the party..but at the same time,
is 8 attendants too much?? how many attendants will/did you have in your wedding?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 bridesmaids. I’m used to getting flack because people think I have too few! I just attribute it to a ‘southern thing.’ Most people here have ginormous bridal parties, so it might seem strange to have a smaller one.
All that said, I think 8 isn’t too much. You should just pick however many you want! I’ve known people who have had upwards of 15 bridesmaids. That might start bordering on excessive, but still, it’s a personal decision. :p
Post # 4
I have six (one Maid/Matron of Honor and five BMS) and Fiance has the same in groomsmen (2 Best men and 4 GMS technically). We are only having about 75-80 guests, so I personally think mine is kinda on the bigger side, but it really does depend on the size of the wedding. If you’re having a large wedding, 7 or 8 is not too many at all.
Post # 5
I have 2 MOHs and 3 BMs. I think 8 might be a lot, but if she means a lot to you then go for 8! 8 is great!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 6
I thought there was some sort of equation that determined the number of BMs you should have based on the number of guests you’re having. That being said, I think it’s entirely a personal choice. We’re having 5 or 6 attendants each side for our wedding of about 200 or so guests. Mind you, our decision to have that many is based solely on the fact that Fiance and I think pictures with that many look awesome.
Post # 7
I think that is something you have to figure out on your own. How big is your church or ceremony venue?? Will having 8 girls and 8 guys standing up there be too crowded?? Do you plan on gifting all 16 members of the party and if so is that in your budget with that many people?? At your reception, will you be having a head table, and how many can it fit? Where our head table is it can only seat so many people because there isn’t space to add in another table.
All things that you need to think about if you’re questioning if 8 is too many. However if you’re questioning actually asking this other Bridesmaid or Best Man, I don’t think it really matters if it’s someone you talk to every day or not. I think you have to decide if you’ll regret not having her there when you look back at your wedding.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
We’re each having 4, 1 MOH/GM and 3 attendants…I really didn’t want a big bridal party, felt too extravagant for us but if it works for you and you have the budget for it, go for it!
Post # 9
We kept our wedding party small. 4 for each side and 3 extra ushers. We each have two bothers so it was easy to make that decision. I have definately enjoyed the smaller wedding party. If you think you can handle a large group, definitely go for it.
Post # 10
I have one Bridesmaid or Best Man, one Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man one groomsman; saves on boutenierres and dresses etc and gifts
Post # 11
Although 8 seems to be on the large size, I’ve seen lots of weddings lately with 10, 12, and 15 bridesmaids. It really must be a ‘Southern’ thing! I’m only having three BMs and like fiftyfootbride, I’m receiving flack about how small my bridal party is!