Post # 1
Hi all. I had a talk about bridal/grooms parties this morning with my FI, and he’s very keen on having them while I’ve been a bit less interested.. Mainly because the girls I would have all live in different states, so they wouldn’t be doing anything other than standing up there with me. However I know with the girls I would pick, I would be so completely honoured to stand up with them while they got married, that I think I’ll have to change my mind!
I have up to 4 girls that I would want to have, but it seems like a lot for a wedding of 90ish people (is it a lot?). What were your bridal party to guest ratios? Also did you have the same number of groomsmen as bridesmaids?
Post # 2
Way back in my mother’s day (and I am a MOB myself) the “standard” was BM for every 50 guests. Why completely escapes me and there is no purpose to be served. I think you could pull of 4 with that sized crowd with no problem.
Post # 4
I think 4 is a nice number. I think it’s totally bananas when people have like 6, 8, or 10 girls. Crazy times! I have three bridesmaids and we are inviting almost 200 people. My fiance also has 3 groomsmen but we weren’t worried about it being even…we just picked our closest friends.
Post # 5
we have a guest list of 80. 4 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. It doesn’t matter. Have whoever who want and screw etiquette! 😀
Post # 6
justpeachy123: roguehnp2005: Thanks both of you for the justification!
Post # 7
Between eighty to one hundred people on my end (haven’t sent out invitations yet) and having eight bridesmaids, eight groomsmen. I don’t really think it matters, nor do I care what people would think of my bridal party. I wasn’t going to exclude a close friend just because I preferred a small wedding. That, to me, is craziness.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
We are having 4 each, but I have 3 bridesmaids and 1 man of honor. We are having about 80 guests. I don’t get the 1-50 rule, who cares?!
Post # 9
We had 120 guests, including 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. It wasn’t really negotiable since we each have a brother and a sister and I have 3 best girlfriends that I couldn’t really choose between. Also, we all lived all over the country and it was no biggie. To me, a bridesmaid just gives moral support as any good friend would, and stands with the bride on her day. It worked out great for us!
Post # 10
Pixienickie: My thoughts exactly! I have no idea who came up with the 1/50 rule but I remember when my first DD got married 9 years ago and wanted 7 BM’s. There was a busy body at work who “reminded” me that this was not a proper thing to do. Didn’t talk wedding around her anymore!
I will say that if I saw 12 BM’s and 50 guests I would think it a bit crazy but I am way more about how people are TREATED rather than some arbitrary ratio.
Post # 11
That’s a good number. I’m having 4 bridesmaids and 65-80 guests. Never thought a BM ratio to guest count mattered. I think you will be fine! : )
Post # 12
i wouldnt pick people with any expectation that they will return the favor. You are setting yourself up for disappointment if you do, because even if you think you are super close, there may be several people that she feels closer to. If you dont want bridesmaids, dont have any. If you want them there, ask them. Four girls for a 90-guest wedding is great.