Bridesmaids – is there a standard guest to bridesmaid ratio?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Way back in my mother’s day (and I am a MOB myself) the “standard” was BM for every 50 guests.  Why completely escapes me and there is no purpose to be served.  I think you could pull of 4  with that sized crowd with no problem.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think 4 is a nice number.  I think it’s totally bananas when people have like 6, 8, or 10 girls.  Crazy times!  I have three bridesmaids and we are inviting almost 200 people.  My fiance also has 3 groomsmen but we weren’t worried about it being even…we just picked our closest friends.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

we have a guest list of 80.  4 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen.  It doesn’t matter. Have whoever who want and screw etiquette! 😀

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Between eighty to one hundred people on my end (haven’t sent out invitations yet) and having eight bridesmaids, eight groomsmen. I don’t really think it matters, nor do I care what people would think of my bridal party. I wasn’t going to exclude a close friend just because I preferred a small wedding. That, to me, is craziness. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

We are having 4 each, but I have 3 bridesmaids and 1 man of honor. We are having about 80 guests. I don’t get the 1-50 rule, who cares?! 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had 120 guests, including 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. It wasn’t really negotiable since we each have a brother and a sister and I have 3 best girlfriends that I couldn’t really choose between. Also, we all lived all over the country and it was no biggie. To me, a bridesmaid just gives moral support as any good friend would, and stands with the bride on her day. It worked out great for us!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Pixienickie:  My thoughts exactly!  I have no idea who came up with the 1/50 rule but I remember when my first DD got married 9  years ago and wanted 7 BM’s.  There was a busy body at work who “reminded” me that this was not a proper thing to do.  Didn’t talk wedding around her anymore!

I will say that if I saw 12 BM’s and 50 guests I would think it a bit crazy but I am way more about how people are TREATED rather than some arbitrary ratio.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That’s a good number. I’m having 4 bridesmaids and 65-80 guests. Never thought a BM ratio to guest count mattered. I think you will be fine! : )

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i wouldnt pick people with any expectation that they will return the favor. You are setting yourself up for disappointment if you do, because even if you think you are super close, there may be several people that she feels closer to. If you dont want bridesmaids, dont have any. If you want them there, ask them. Four girls for a 90-guest wedding is great.

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