BRIDESMAIDS making my life INSANE!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@StarIzInkd:  Whoa there wall of text.  Paragraph breaks would make this much more readable.

It seems like you picked a dress that was over your bridesmaid’s budget.  I understand having a vision, but if you are going to adhere to your vision you can’t expect other people to pay for it.  I would offer to either pay for the bridesmaid’s dresses, or throw in the extra $20 to have the dress come in under budget.

Post # 6
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1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@StarIzInkd:  If you’re only having three bridesmaids, why don’t you just buy the dresses?

Post # 8
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@StarIzInkd:  Honestly, you can’t expect your wedding to be a priority for anyone other that you and your groom.  It’s mean spirited to criticize her spending on herself because she’s not spending it on you.  I mean, you’re probably spending more on your wedding (ie yourself) than you’ll be spending on gifts for her this year, but it would be crappy of her to judge you for that.

Post # 9
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@StarIzInkd:  Super confused – did you mix up your numbering?  Having a hard time following this….I’m not sure who the difficult one is.

Tell them, this is the dress. Period.  It’s in the budget, needs to be ordered.  My sister was my PITA, she didn’t get me measurements in time so we’re hoping for the best (She’s the only one who actually got to try the dress on at all)

Post # 10
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1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Polygon:  +1  Mentally counting other people’s money is not a good look on anyone.  If it’s important to you to have them in a particular dress, then buy it for them.  If they have budget constraints, then adjust your expectations or give them a color and let them pick out a dress on their own.

Post # 11
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7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

If I understand this correctly, why don’t you just pay the extra $16?

Post # 13
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346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StarIzInkd:  They will always wait until the last minute. They will tell you they are having money problems, are in a bazillion other weddings, have no vacation after months of going along with it and after months of making the commitment to you. Honestly, it puts into perspective who actually gives a sh*t about you. 

Perhaps that’s being harsh and perhaps I have high expectations of friends, but I would rather be surrounded by people who support me than flakes.

Sorry you are dealing with this. I’d put my foot down and be a bitch about it until the dresses are ordered.  If they are having major budget restraints maybe meet halfway and pay for part until she can pay you back.

Post # 14
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2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i paid for half of everyones dress to make it less of a budget thing cause some people had a disposable income some didnt. they all apreciated that we like 120 dollar dress and 60 dollars for them to buy a dress they wear once was an okay amount.

 

they all need to get measured- would the store measure them with out putting some money down or does the entire amount have to be given at the time of measuerment… i think you need to be very blunt in telling them they are have to get measured now and order the dresses before they have to pay rush fees which will make the dress not fit everyones budget even more so

Post # 15
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568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i understand you completely. There is only one of my five girls who i thought wouldnt be able to afford a dress, but yet none of them are even making an attempt to get one even though i didnt dictate the dress, i let them choose and find one. My MOH has hers but it needs serious alterations and thats not being done either. So i understand what you are going through. Unfortunately i cant offer any advice though becuase mine arent doing what they are supposed to either. Im also struggling to pay for the wedding, i cant help them.

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